I’m reading. Finally. I’ve been preoccupied with research on self-publishing and self-marketing. I have neglected to feed myself the rich words of others.
GETTING TO YES WITH YOURSELF has my attention. William Ury is a seasoned, professional mediator. He has an impressive background. He co-authored the bestseller, GETTING TO YES.You’ve heard the win-win concept. It influenced a change in thinking things needed to be won or lost with no middle ground.
Mr. Ury has refined his plan for successful negotiations by focusing on ourselves as part of the preparation for a meeting. Whether I am reaching an understanding with a family member, a boss, co-worker, or other companies, this book holds insights for greater success.
Even though I’m only a smidge into this book, I am loving his style. It holds my interest as well as inspires. Here’s my question. Would you like to read it too and form a book club here on my blog? I borrowed it on Amazon with the Kindle Lending Library. I’m sure it is available through your local library also. Does this interest anyone?
One of the themes I am already incorporating into my day is the balcony concept. We live on a stage. As I have talked about so often, we can experience, submerged and become overwhelmed. Standing back on the balcony is a way to keep ourselves from identifying with the emotions. He has suggested, and I have started incorporating, putting names on my emotions. This way I can identify what emotions are suddenly occurring from the viewpoint of the balcony. In other words, when I find I am angry I can easily take an objective notice by giving it a name. I’ve started talking about Gloomy Gilda, or Sad Sally, or Angry Anthony — all characters who show up in the play of my day. I know this isn’t new to me, but Mr. Ury’s book moves me to action.
So what do you think? Would you like to read it, share your ideas together and quite possibly grow towards more yesses?
This page can become the thread for discussion. What are you reading? See you soon!
It would be great to share a beautiful piece of music. Helping people unfold their dreams! So Good! Goes right along with positive thinking!
In first three years of your life you were in the receptive mode much of the time. You were observing the world around you and you freely interacted with it. You may not have many memories of this time. You were engrossed in relating and interacting with people, places and things around you. Your eyes and attention were often wide open!
Whenever your body felt something you did not choose, you learned to communicate through crying. When you were delighted, you often let it all out with screams of joy. You were close to your non-physical being-ness. Your parents often saw you staring blankly into space and wondered what world you were in.
Now you may be pretty much set in your ways. Even the most conscious of us, forget old thoughts can become stagnant and negative. Negative thoughts can influence our life. One negative plus one negative equal two negatives. Two negatives plus two negatives equal four negatives. When our thoughts center around worrying over money, a test, the loss of a friend, or even remembering hurtful experiences, we block the possibilities of positivity!
The thing is you can’t have any happiness without positivity. This is due to the fact happiness cannot coexist with negativity. Changing your world depends on your ability to live in a happy environment. Your biggest job today is to find ways to improve upon negative thinking.
Re-wording the way you talk about something can create a more positive thought.
Words are formed to express a specific meaning or attitude. Words have the power to hold us in current situations. Words are close evidence of our thoughts.
Yet, we use words so casually. We seldom think about word’s impact on ourselves and others. We sprinkle words around from morning to night and rarely take responsibility for them or notice how they form our day. We have been born into a world of pre-existing meaning. It is challenging to break away from negativity.
A challenge is never to be feared! I believe you can have no thoughts without words. So, how we use them is important!
ARE LIGHTLY THOUGHTFUL. Remember the infant/toddler? Can’t you hear the little one coo and giggle at what is seen, felt, heard, touched, smelled?
EMIT GENEROSITY. It is easy to relate to others with inclusivity and without judgement when you engage in positive words .
SEND MESSAGES OF EASE, WELL-BEING, SATISFACTION. Whether you are walking to work, washing the dishes, mowing the lawn, driving a car, making dinner, when positive thoughts are vibrating within your brain, you receive happy messages. This way you will know your thinking is positive. If you feel poorly, you are thinking negative thoughts, even if you are not paying attention.
Exercising, socializing and meditating will help wean you from negative thinking (worry, anxiety, disappointment, anger, resentment, jealousy, depression, etc.). Choosing on-going education is an excellent way to change your thoughts by improving your words. This can include traveling to a new country or state, walking across the street to get better acquainted with a neighbor, reading a book difficult for you to read, listening to a new type of music until you can understand its magic.
As part of your early morning preparation for the day, it can be fun to choose one new person, place or thing you are going to meet up with this day. This is how I came up with the February Commitment to Write Challenge!
You may agree, when you first realized the power you have over your life, everything changed. Now it is time to better understand this power. We are here as individuals. Yet we are also here intrinsically joined to every person, place and thing. What choices will we make for ourselves, realizing the impact on others. Are we able to lift ourselves up and others also. This is the new way of thinking that brings a more positive life.
One positive plus one positive always leads to a better direction. The time is now! Best to you, Barbara
The blogcast is pretty funny today. You might enjoy!
Well, in my little corner of the world, I have successfully completed my personal challenge to write every day during the month of February! It feels so good to achieve a goal that is self-imposed. How do you think we celebrate?
You know people who walk into a room with such vibrance everyone turns to look. The room senses the party is about to begin! The room seems to lighten up! You love to be around these people. They seem to be in charge of fun times. We’d like to be like them! The Fun People!
You can be a fun person. At least once in a while! It may take a little practice. Your thoughts can direct your body to do just about anything. If we make a repetitive request, it becomes a habit. So, yes, we can all become a person of more mirth! Here’s some ideas:
MAKE A COMMITMENT TO PRACTICE FUN! Put a sign up on your bathroom mirror. Place a smiley face, an emoji or a check on your poster each time you catch yourself having a fun time. Ask yourself often, Are you having fun? Make a game out of making your mark!
EACH DAY DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT OR DO IT IN A NEW WAY! You may have to get your kids to school, go to work, clean the house, work on your taxes, eat, cook … whatever. There are many, many things you do every day, every day, every day. Take something easy, like going to work. Do you take the same road every day, and if you so, do you enjoy the drive? Or is it a stressful time. Take time to find the fun in the drive: different tunes, new roads to take, stop for a coffee, bring some goodies to work, see how long you can smile! Enjoy the trip.
TAKE A LOOK AROUND YOUR SURROUNDINGS! Play this game! Look at the room in from of you. Close your eyes. Now list how many things you can remember seeing: the items, the colors, what’s on top of what. (The more you play this game, the more you can describe.)
BUNDLE UP IF IT’S COLD AND WALK TO THE NEAREST BEACH, TRAIL, STORE, PARK, ETC. There’s nothing like taking yourself out! Get out of the house. If you are at work, take a walk around the block or to the nearest park, when you are on your break. You’ll stop from snacking and, over time, you’ll tone your muscles. If you ask a friend to come along, you’ll have some good laughs along the way.
LEARN A SPORT. The YMCA has a pool and lap pool and offers swimming lessons for adults. They also have classes from moderate exercising, to advanced, Tai Chi, Yoga, Chair Yoga and much more. It’s a great place for people who haven’t exercised in a while. Walking or biking around a lake or a park is fun! There’s always park benches to stop and take on the views. There are also adult basketball, volleyball, soccer, baseball community teams you can join. Your city website usually can direct you to places you can meet up.
ATTEND ADULT CLASSES AT COMMUNITY COLLEGES: There’s nothing more fun than to attend a class where you don’t care about the grade! You can learn with other students: laugh, share, listen and in general, grow with the experience.
ATTEND ADULT COURSES ON-LINE.http://www.KhanAcademy.com is a website providing free courses for kids and adults. You can take courses, step by step, or choose just the one’s of interest to you. The teachers and presentations contain action videos. I’ve taken these courses over the years and really enjoy the atmosphere. Fun!
LEARN A NEW ARTISTIC SKILL. Many people say out loud, I can’t even draw a straight line. Art is one of the paths to your heart! Once you let go of how it’s supposed to look and just draw, you’ll enjoy the process. YouTube.com has amazing demonstrations for learning how to draw or paint. They even have many 3D techniques. This is a time fun can flourish. The truth is everyone can learn anything! A couple of years ago, I searched for a free piano on a local facebook buy/sell group. I was given a free piano! As easy as that! I arranged to have someone move it to my home, and I began to learn how to play. I used a piano software program for $89 for the year. It was fun to learn to read the notes and play the rhythms. I stopped the lessons and began to experiment playing by ear. Now the piano is a fun activity I can rely on every day!
USE A NEW RECIPE JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT. If you have an afternoon at home, it’s always a good time to cook with your mate or by yourself. With the web there are incredible varieties available. Fun happens within the process, so don’t worry about the outcome as much as the pleasure it gives you to create your dish. Take time to enjoy. Enjoy the magic of joining food groups into a delightful meal. Fun!
AT THE END OF THE DAY, RATE ALL THE FUN THINGS YOU ENJOYED! By reviewing your fun day, you set up your tomorrow. And as your tomorrows grow in fun, you become the fun person who enters the room!