It may be a challenge to wrap your head around emotions as the messages for balancing a happy life. It is almost magical when I listen and make an adjustment. I appreciate and trust my emotions. What a concept!
Life can be a lot of fun when we don’t ride with clenched hands. I am enjoying most of the moments and letting go when I find discomfort. The result: I float back up to the top where everything looks mighty good.
Try to picture what you want. For instance, choose a feeling you want to happen between the two of you. You may imagine this: I’d like to spend a couple of moments together feeling easy with one another, that’s just what I would like. Now, you go into the room where Bob is watching TV and you sit down and read a book. You are not looking for an outcome. You are going to enjoy what you wanted: You want to feel easy. All of the pressure is released and nothing but ease is expected. You can create this!
Fun is a state of mind. You don’t need an objective benchmark to know if you are enjoying yourself. You can be lounging in your home, reading a good book, gardening, painting, creating a new recipe, talking with friends, redecorating, shopping, walking, dancing, swimming, or even cleaning up a corner of the world you have special fondness for. You know you are having fun when you can breathe deeply, smile easily and love the one you are with!
You can only think one thought at a time. You can hold one attitude at a time. What does happy feel like to you? As you become more familiar with this feeling and you think thoughts that hold this matching energy, you will naturally be happy without working at it. Happiness has a different feeling from any other emotion. I think everyone interprets happiness in different ways, so the work is keeping track of how you feel when you are happy and repeat this feeling often.