Speaking of Love

All You Need Is Love

— but how does it serve you?

What if you think of love as an energy force that mirrors whatever it hears from you? What if you think of love as an energy force that is as close to you as you are to yourself?

You use a heart drawing as a symbol of love.  I heart you.   Everyone recognizes its meaning.

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The heart has been beating ever since it became a heart.  It continually beats without stopping until the day you leave your body.  This symbol of love reminds you that life is constantly working in the background and constantly available to you.

When you do not understand how life works, you can become confused and feel like a leaf whirling about in the wind.  Yet the energy of love continues to beat within  every situation at hand.  Because love is non-physical it has the power to expand and duplicate situations that match your desires.  If you run, your heart beats faster.  If you go to sleep your heart beats to a slower pace.  Love expands all physical situations and is attentive to whatever direction you wish to take.  You may think you want to be happy, but your inner conversation complains about this or that. These complaints are heard and activated.  Your complaints are what love expands for you.  Is this something you have ever thought about?

You may not be aware of this interpretation. I hope it is helpful to you.  You may not be aware that love gives you whatever you want!  Now that you are aware, be careful about what you ask for in you thoughts and conversations.  And, what about complaining? When you complain you send requests that say you want to experience what the complaint looks like.

This sense of  expanding seems like something new,  You find yourself in a situation you do not like and you become frightened by the situation.  You become more and more concerned and the situation seems to get worse.  More things happen that make you frightened.

Example One:  You find that your coffee machine is broken.  It makes you clearly upset because you won’t have your coffee before leaving for work.  You begin to feel bad about your whole life.  While you get dressed, you remember how unlucky you are that you never have won the lottery.  It’s a recurring thought and it seems perfectly normal to have this thought as you get ready for work. You go into your closet and feel you can’t find a thing to wear!  You walk out to the car and step in a muddy puddle.  You say, Well, that’s just fine!  I’m a total failure!.    You go in and clean up your shoes, and your internal conversation goes on.  You think about how your mother told you how careless you are. You begin to believe her.  You stand up, look at the clock on the stove and see you are running 15 minutes late.  How did that happen?!  Can’t I even keep track of time.  No wonder I don’t get promotion!    You get in and start the car, and drive to the end of the street.  Sure, the traffic light can’t even help me!  you yell.  It appears that the light is stuck!  You wait and wait and wait!   …and feel miserable!

Example Two:  You find that your coffee machine is broken. You are surprised, but you are trained to STOP and PAUSE.  You look out the window and see the beautiful sunshine and watch a bird pecking around in your garden.  You look back at the coffee machine and remember it appears broken.  You then remember that you have a French Press somewhere in the cupboard.  You get some water to boil.  You begin to feel that this day is going to be a fun adventure.  You remember how much you love French Press coffee, and now have this opportunity.  While you wait for the water to boil, you finish dressing and think about how much you love the outfit you’ve put together.  You turn on some music, put the water into the French Press, squeeze the grounds and enjoy the aroma of the coffee.  Everything good always happens to me! you hear yourself say.  You put your coffee into a traveling mug and head for the door.  You feel great and enjoy the front yard  You see the mud puddle and miss it entirely.  You drive with ease and care.  You are ready to stop at the traffic light, but it continues to be green.  You begin to think about work and how you can make it a better place today! There’s a parking place right in front of your workplace, and you weren’t even looking for one.  Life is always great for you!

These examples demonstrate how the energy of love expands and contracts according to your thoughts.   Change always matches your inner conversations, your inner attitudes, your fears and your confidence.  If you have been following these blogs, you know things are going to continue to expand in a direction that of your thoughts.  Your love energy is matching your internal conversation just as it matches the beating of your heart when you are running or sleeping.

You may have been  threatened by the expansion and contractions of situations  Up to now, you may have  become fearful of bad situations and changes in your life.

How can we handle the fear of change?

Previously we have talked about listening to our emotions.

You can first STOP/PAUSE and look away to something more pleasing, then look back at the changed situation with new eyes.  Unless there is a true life/death situation, you do not need to react immediately.  And, you never need to give into negative impulses.

Ask yourself, how will this situation change with negative attitudes?  if I allow negative impulses to direct me, how will I ever get out of this situation?  You are in a world where the basis of who you are matches your every thought.  When you don’t like something, STOP/PAUSE.  Then ACCEPT THE SITUATION.  Accept it as a mirror of what you’ve been thinking about lately.  Make a note to change your way of complaining or talking or thinking.  Start looking at a brighter side of life and brighter situations will naturally follow.

When you begin to experiment with this basic idea, you will see just how futile it is to place blame on others.  You are free to suffer and you are free to flourish.  Negative thoughts can only produce negative situations.  Positive thoughts can only produce positive situations.  ….  Something to think about today.

Bound By Love

Can thoughts be controlled?

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Who is controlling thoughts?  When I was young I was taught that I  have happy thoughts and bad thoughts.  I remember a story that was read to me.  It was about the good angel and the bad angel who sat on my shoulders. The good angel whispered thoughts that were good.  And the bad angel  whispered thoughts that were bad. I loved when my mother would find time to read to me at bedtime.  Little Tommy would be tempted to steal a bicycle, — or maybe it was a pair of skates that were fastened under his shoes, — from a neighbor’s house.  He could be fooled into thinking that his actions were good when, in fact they were not good for him in the long run.  After taking the skates, he had to return them.  He felt oh, so bad.  He had missed the happiness mark and was now separated from everyone else.  He felt all alone by what he did and I felt bad for him.  I was taught about choosing good and avoiding evil by hearing these stories over and over. The good angel sent happy emotions and the bad angel sent unhappy emotions.  I was learning to listen to my emotions to help me make sense out of life.

In remembering this, I begin to check with what is serving up my inner conversations.  I seem to Happy have a playlist that is not serving me at all.  I want to keep checking these endless,  inner conversations that produce and often times, prevent my actions.

Why is it important to run playlists that are happy?  Happy thoughts serve me!  Happiness allows actions that support health, wealth and peace of mind. Happiness produces clarity and stamps out confusion.  Happiness allows love to energize me. Connect to feelings of happiness and I will act in ways that help me lose weight, create wealth, and live a peaceful life.  Happiness is my guiding force to help me get what I want.

Who is the gatekeeper of thoughts, if not me?

I bring out all sorts of thoughts on any subject matter without even being aware of it.  I can be unconscious and let an assortment of past experiences, mostly bad experiences, play on a looped setting.  I can play this endlessly until I become conscious and choose to change my thoughts.  If I check, I can recognize that only one thought can be entertained in any given moment.  It is very reasonable then, to change my negative and hurtful thoughts to thoughts more positive and supportive of me.

Negative thoughts that are looped brings discouragement and self-doubt into my existence.

What does all this mean?  How can I make a happy day out of this?

  1. Happiness is the core value of my life.
  2. Begin and end my day with a moment of quiet.  Focus on nature: waves, trees, flowers, animals, rain, snow, sunshine.  Focus without attaching any judgement or description to it.  If I  become aware that I am lost in thoughts about the tree, (like I find I am thinking about how dry the tree looks and how I better water it), I will bring myself back to meeting the object of my focus as if I have seen it for the first time.
    1. I have stopped the looped playlists when a deep breath, perhaps a yawn, takes place, but don’t wait for it… that will be a thought.
  3. Commit to regularly checking in with my feelings.  When I am unhappy or anxious, I will veer my actions toward something I particularly like to do.
  4. New, improved actions can bring about new, improved thoughts.
  5. Keep refining a list of actions that particularly allow happiness to shine through to my conscious mind.  Keep 5 actions updated and kept in a place I will view frequently during this day.  Locate actions that increase my ability for happiness on a daily basis.

I am hopeful these two actions can help me change my direction

We have lots to do on this journey of life.  If you haven’t The Longest Journey, perhaps that will be helpful also.

We are destined for an enjoyable life!

 

The Longest Journey

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I’ve heard it said, and I’ve said it myself on numerous occasions: The longest journey you will ever make is from your mind to your heart.  This morning as I had a little pep talk with myself in the mirror, I replaced mind with negative thoughts and replaced heart with a state of happiness:  the longest journey I will ever make is from my negative thoughts to my state of happiness.

This is helpful to me.  This mysterious influence of thoughts have the power to  defeat every attempt in allowing happiness.  Negative thoughts can be like gray clouds that form and make visibility difficult.  Like clouds, these thoughts often go unnoticed until the cold or rain interfere with our lives, our feelings of well-being.

The way we translate the experience of people, places and things, the way we perceive the world around us, is through our five senses.  Thoughts are interpreted through senses, past and present, and are the gatekeepers to our happiness.  Our thoughts act as guards to how we feel at a particular time.  If we want to feel better, we can always consciously change our thoughts by sensing something more pleasant.

For instant, we may be thinking about something at work that is unpleasant.  Perhaps our boss talked to us about how she thought we were not performing as well as we used to.  We are home and feeling bad and don’t feel like doing anything but complain to our dog about how bad our life is.  Once we become aware of our poor feelings, we can choose to experience something new with our senses, quick before we think about it.  Perhaps we go out and water the flowers.  We feel the warm air outside.  We smell the beautiful roses.  We begin digging around the flowerbed and sit down and feel the warm dirt .  We choose to feel better by doing things that make us feel better and our thoughts are focused away from an experience at work.  When the old thought comes back, we gently remind ourselves that we will change what we can change but we have no power over the opinion of our boss.  We will accept the conversation as what it was and realize it is now in the past.  We will do what we can to improve.  But for now, we are going to enjoy this moment with the outdoors.  We are going to choose to do things that make us happy.

Now, as we become more aware of our thoughts and mold them into friendly greeters and facilitators between bliss and our existence in our bodies, the easier we  move about the earth.  This is important to me.

Here are five ways to help mold your thoughts into friendly greeters:

  1. List five activities that consistently bring you into a happy state.  Examples:  taking a nap, listening to music, doing the laundry, rearranging the furniture, taking a walk, going to the beach.
  2. Put this list on a business card for your wallet or print it on a post-it for your bathroom mirror, or on the desktop display.
  3. The moment you realize you feel poorly, congratulate yourself for being alert, and move toward that list
  4. Pick one and do it.  If you do not feel better, cross that item off your list
  5. Revamp your list for better feeling activities.

This journey is the never-ending journey.  We are destined to move forward to better and better ways of feeling, of living in our hearts!

 

Eight ways to live within your dreams

All of us have dreams.  They come with anticipation but can also come with doubt and fear.  Fear can hold dreams from becoming reality indefinitely.  How you live with your dreams, makes or breaks a level of happy creation.  This article is written to explore ways to live with and within the dream process.:

  1. Know that a dream already has the power to exist in your life! For instance, you may wish for a new car when your old car keeps breaking down. This becomes your dream. It holds the reality of a new car. The dream is as sure to become a reality in your life as an acorn has the power to become an oak tree.  So, why are dreams sometimes so elusive?  Can it be that we keep the dream from naturally developing?  I think this is possible.  An acorn is pretty small compared to an oak tree.  So is the dream of a new car, or at least your perception of getting a new car.  I believe that dreams have every component necessary to emerge into our reality unless we get in the way by trying to control it through our egos. As an ego gets involved, (and it will always try), it introduces doubt, a need for control over this thought process. An ego is capable of introducing separation from the dream, even conflict.  An ego pretends to want this dream but insists it can only be achieved through hard, unhappy work.  An ego can hold the dream away from blossoming. An ego introduces pseudo-happiness, the illusion of winning against great odds.  In its conflict, this ego separates us from others as it suggests that we are alone. It may suggest a need to right a wrong in order to make a dream come true.  We can be unaware of the daily doses of news stories that feed our egos..  We may read an article that states this is not a good time to buy a car. If you believe this might be true, you will not fulfill this dream to own a new, safer car. You may believe yourself to be wise in choosing to put off the purchase, but when the car breaks down again, you feel a sense of hopelessness and anger at your plight.  The ego gets in the way of connecting with your natural happy state.  Letting go of control and feelings of intense achievement is the first challenge in living within dreams.

  2. Play with your dream.  Daily pretend the dream has already come true. Wouldn’t it be fun to have a new car?  This is a fine way to play with your dream.  Summon up feelings by thinking about how nice the new smell feels or about how much fun it would be to listen to your music in new and fun ways.  You feel the power of the new car’s gadgets and safety features. It feels so good!  Think about the car with whimsy.  It becomes a fun dream to visit every day.   The dream itself brings with it many happy days of anticipation. You feel so much fun and satisfaction at the thought of the dream, you enjoy the anticipation just as much as you enjoy the end product. You may come up with ideas about visiting a couple of car dealers in person or on-line and playing with colors, styles, and other features.  The playful anticipation of the new dream is just as important as the dream itself.  When you think about it, it’s really not the dream that is so impressive, it’s the way we think about the dream that connects us to happy.  If dreams give us unhappy feelings of lack, uncertainty, anxiety, etc., you can be sure we are very far away from the dream that is waiting to show itself as a car.

  3. Stop talking about dreams as solutions to your problems. You might hear a child whine, I really, really want this toy!  I really, really, really NEED this toy! We may have an inner child whining about what we perceive as a dream or wish.  My car is so unsafe, we complain to our friends.  I really wish I had the money to buy a new car.  The complaining about the car can turn into conversations about how unlucky we are, or how we don’t understand why some people can buy new cars every couple of years and we can’t even afford another used car  If not checked we can complain indefinitely about the car dream.  We don’t realize that it is the complaining that holds dream from ever coming true.  Use your conversations to support your dream by talking about feelings that are already a daily reality because of the car dream..

  4. Let the dream grow naturally.  Give into and take for action ideas about getting the car as they come with ease.  Appreciate that you are not creating the dream all by yourself, but sharing it with people who have already made your car. They have dreams of selling the car.  Your dream and theirs will harmonize, making beautiful music of life!.  The dream already has been created for you to enjoy.  Enjoy the way the dream becomes more and more real for you each day.  Talk to others about how much fun you are having as you explore the kind of car that’s coming your way.  If you are smiling when you think or talk about your new car, you are letting the dream grow naturally.  Your feelings are the sunshine of the dream. There is nothing you need to do except be present — happily!

  5. Be open to the development of your dream  You may find that your initial picture of a car changes as you enjoy, explore and discover new features that you previously did not know existed.  If these new discoveries begin to give you financial or other concerns, gently stop and look for discoveries that give you a happier feeling. Here’s an example in my life.  When it was time to purchase a new car, I thought I wanted a convertible.  I chose one great-looking convertible and dreamed about it on-line and called dealers.  I chose colors and felt the wind blowing in my hair.  I loved that it had a hard top that mechanically opened from inside the trunk.  The car itself looked so good to me.  But I never was inclined to move toward purchasing the car.  I received emails with special deals.  It did not inspire me to purchase.  I kept feeling that I was too exposed in a convertible.  I am not the kind of person who wants to create a spectacle for others.  But I still wanted all the feelings that the convertible held for me.  I eventually chose a car that had the great feelings held by the old convertible car.  The car I finally chose, held all of these feelings and so much more.  It was not only fully equipped, it had a sun-roof that reached back to the 2nd row of seats.  It represented a convertible to me but it was now my private convertible.  Its the feeling that can help you appreciate the fact that dreams lead to a connection to our truest nature of well-being.  If we find we are anxious or stubbornly working to get the dream, we are actually blocking the dream.

  6. Uplift your attitude away from a dreamless life.  All of us have dreams.  Many of us try to fight the urge to believe in dreams and try life with a more realistic approach:  no dreams, no disappointment.  This attitude draws just that:  a dreamless life.  Nothing special.  Every day like every day.  No celebration.  Getting along.  A living sleeper.  A we never win, attitude.  If you can change and uplift this attitude toward a “might happen or a wouldn’t this be fun if”  attitude, things can brighten up immediately

  7. Bravely walk toward and into your dream  When you want a dream to come true, you have to be willing to change from your current situation.  You need to leave behind thoughts of what was just a moment ago.  This takes constant vigilance.  You have to stop and leave behind thoughts like, I just want to get a new car, so I’m not asking my brother to pick me up all the time.  Or, I’m sick of getting a used car and having it break down! Or, Who do I think I am, having a new car!  What will my family think about me?  Will they think I am financially irresponsible?  These, and similar thoughts, can keep you in a holding pattern.  When you can become aware of these self-defeating thoughts and you can dismiss them, you can begin to bravely walk towards and into your dreams with better ease.  You will remember that dreams already have the power to exist.  We need only find ways to receive the dream.

  8. Accept your dream knowing there is another dream just behind this one! When you bring home the car, you may have a few days and weeks to smell the new interior and enjoy the newness of the car.  It’s so much fun!  You may be able to appreciate and enjoy it as a symbol of how your dream developed into reality.  In this way, the newness and satisfaction can remain for a long time.  In the meantime, however, if you become more conscious of your life, you will notice that another dream is showing itself.  This time you may have a dream to get a new job, or meet new people, travel to a far away land, or add an extension to your home.  As you become aware of the affect dreams have on your life, you will move away from negative thinking, from doubt.  You will appreciate the role dreams play in helping you grow in wisdom, love and peace.  This is a hint of things to come.

It is helpful for me to write and explore my understanding of dreams and the state of on-going happy creation.  I hope these thoughts are helpful for you like wise..

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Creating Thoughts That Serve You!

Guide your thoughts to serve you

This is the best.  Copy and paste it, print it and put it up on your wall.  It can bring consciousness to you as you pass it in the hallway.  Or, you could use it as your desktop wallpaper.  It has the power to remind you to choose thoughts that serve you.

I can choose my thoughts.  The thing is, I am usually so unconscious as to what my mind is conversing about at a constant pace that I am not usually aware that I have a choice at all!  Thoughts seem to be my ego and I often listen to that long-time friend.  It says I don’t have a choice at all!

But a choice I have.  I can be servants to my thoughts.  My thoughts tell me that the economy is bad.  I read the news to find out if this is true.  And, of course, I find lots of articles that will tell me that everyone better be concerned.  And, so I worry and feel sick and scared, and irritated at whoever comes into my midst.  It is no fun being a servant of my careless thoughts.

I need to remind myself that my mind has an automatic function and if left unattended will automatically dish out thoughts previously thought or read about. . It’s the reason I can type these words so easily, without even being aware of what letters I’m tapping on.   The mind can sort out and remember data that comes to me  just like a computer. My ego has developed within the mind and can dish up thoughts to its satisfaction, like eating when I’m not hungry.  If I don’t organize that data the way I, my happiest self, want it to serve me, if I just let the data run every which way, my body will receive instructions.  Yes.  My body is  dependent on my mind and my heart.

The question is, do I want to let the mind have free-wheeling power over my existence?

For me the answer is an emphatic, NO!  Well, not when it feeds me emotions of fear, worry, irritation, hopelessness, that type of thing.  But I like the automatic body directions, like walking and dancing and, yes, typing!

Unless I am aware of my thoughts, they run me.  I keep hearing this, but I keep ignoring this seemingly simple fact.   It is so easy to take orders from the thoughts.  I often act on thoughts that I did not really choose, and then regret it as if I had a choice.  But I did have a choice.  I could have chosen to put thoughts into my mind that were pleasant and helpful for me to gain my dreams!  I could have chosen to learn a new skill, take a new course, listen to a new piece of music, sketch or paint, exercise, mediate, visit with friends, take a walk, play a game with my family.  I did not have to let outside random news stories take possession of my life and the health of my body.

And I haven’t even talked about commercials!

I worry about the future of my job.  I worry about the amount of money I will need to survive in the future.  I worry just about everything when I read the news.  I was taught in school to be civic minded by reading current events.  So even though the news has always been geared to what is shockingly wrong, I dutifully read, if I don’t consciously stop myself.  Many times I am  just curious to know what is going on in the world.  I guess I believe I’m going to read some good news.  It never happens and I am filling my mind with fear, concern, disgust, judgements about things I really don’t even know about because I’m reading a 2nd hand account.   The fact is, it is challenging to read the news and stay conscious, alert, enough to sort through what I will allow myself to think about.

Here comes the good stuff.  It is possible to make my thoughts serve me.  What is it that I want.  I want to reap the benefits of my core nature, love and happiness.  These sweet energies do not exist in worry and concern.  Negative thoughts are like the worst party poopers!  These thoughts try to cover up and make me forget that there is such a thing as love and happiness.  These thoughts are determined to eliminate any enjoyment.  Well enough about the negative thoughts.

The thing is, I have to first be aware that they are running rapid in my mind and making my life miserable.  Once I can do that, — ah! — I can choose a few thoughts of my own.  I can clean-up the computer of my mind and create a most magnificent day for myself and for everyone around me.

That is the choice we all have.  Whenever you feel miserable, you can look to our thoughts.  What have you been thinking about?  If you have just been reacting to a friend, to a news story, to a car who cut in front of you, to the load of work you have to accomplish, chances are you are now servants of those thoughts.  You don’t like being servants of negativity.  The alternative, of course, is to change your upload of thoughts.

Dare to enjoy life by enjoying life!  Leave the news behind.  News isn’t new.  It was cautioning us to be very a very afraid when I was a child and it is no different now.  We will always have people telling us that the end is near.  The question is, will we listen?

Will we train our mind to think thoughts that serve us and our pursuit of happiness.  It will take courage and discipline and delight and fun, but I think we are up to it.  This is possible because our core of love is strong beyond estimation!

No matter what  you perceive your situation to be, create thoughts that will permit you to have a most satisfying and happy day!

Choosing Cooperation Over Conflict

Cooperation over conflictThe response within any given situation, affects the direction a situation will take.

Every day we are challenged by the ebb and flow of events on so many levels.  We may or may not be aware of the numerous situations that are occurring within the doors of our existence.

The car in front of you stalls at a traffic light,  a room mate leaves dirty dishes on the table, one friend is grumpy and a bit obnoxious, one neighbor has recently loss a loved one and you don’t know exactly how to support her, one sister is celebrating a birthday and you don’t know what to give her, one co-worker just found out he has cancer, one child is whining over the breakfast that was given them, and this is just the story of people you know.   All of us come to the day with situational stories each and every day.

When you are not aware of the situations that are forming all round you and your friends and family, things can get pretty overwhelming.  The more you focus on the irritating situation, the worse it gets.  Has it ever occurred to you that you participate in the development of situations?  Are you willing to pause and be present to what is happening in the moment before things get too irritating?    There are ways to build better outcomes, more pleasing situations from what is currently happening.

Be present. Avoid conflict. Rethink what you may have heard.

Once you recognize a challenging situation, you can also realize that it has already occurred, a done deal. It may have taken you by surprise and surprise usually comes with a bit of apprehension. But no matter. The event has taken place and now is in the past, so simply reacting to it probably will create a defensive situation.  And, what are you defending?  Something that happened in the past, not now.  You are fighting the past and not present to what is going on now.  That is, if you aren’t giving it continued focus and attention.  You can prolong situations by magnifying its impact — either positively or negatively.

What happens when a child is upset?  You usually experience an irritated feeling rising within you. You may look for support from those around you.  You may feel like shutting out your child, cutting them out of your world.  You may begin to daydream about times when you were free of all these responsibilities.  You may begin down a slippery slope of wishing you could be anyone else but who you are now.  You unknowingly separate yourself from your world, your family,  and your child.  You have unknowingly created a new conflicted situation where you are on different sides.  At this point, you may not even be able to love your child.  You probably cannot come up with any solution for the whining and begin to yell at the child to stop their whining!  And you feel even worse. Situations have a way of spiraling away from a solution and it can become exhausting for you, your family and your child.

The same situations can occur in the workplace.  A co-worker is late for work and creates stress while welcoming customers and answering phones in your little shop.  You unknowingly separate yourself from your co-worker. All sorts of thoughts begin to arise.  You have no idea where they came from.  You place your co-worker outside of your world to protect yourself and unknowingly create a situation of greater unhappiness..   Your situation spirals away from meeting the early morning challenge with humor to a day of bad feelings between you and your co-worker who was fifteen minutes late.  You may consider yourself powerless over the morning situation that was clearly the fault of the co-worker.  You may feel even righteous that you were on time.  But these defensive feelings will never bring about happiness, peace and cooperation.

These negative feelings can only be helpful to you when you are present (conscious of them). They can alert us: we are no longer dealing with the present challenge. They can alert us that we have power to move a situation into a more positive light.

I’m sure you will agree, it is difficult when you are surprised by an unforeseen situation.  We are challenged when asked to accept a situation that we did not choose.  While control makes us feel secure, losing control makes us feel fearful, frustrated, and even angry.  The more these emotions rise, the worse our situations seem to become.

As stated before, a situation will develop in accord with your initial and continual response or reaction to it.

When we cling to unconscious control, we get attached to how things should play out and we get stuck in the problem. When we are present we are able to rethink the situation and move toward a better situation. By supporting our family, friends or co-workers in positive ways, we create future situations of cooperation. We build a better, more satisfying world for ourselves.

Cooperation: working together without conflict.

Positive Attitudes Soar Over Fear

You probably havel been surprised by some compelling situation that calls out your fearful side.  Perhaps it was an over-due bill in the mail or a very real concern that you could lose your job.  There are so many situation where fear can usurp all of your attention.  The situation appears to be bigger than you are.  This appears to be the situation that you always feared would come.  It takes command of your very self.  You are taken by the attraction of fear  and it seems impossible to do anything but be a victim.

Then you may hear a faint, soft, breeze-of-a-voice, whisper that there is nothing to fear.  You can’t yet take your focus off fear, though.  You know better.  This time things are really going to be bad.  You knew it would come and here it comes!

The voice  may be quiet but it holds its own strength and does not rely on you.  It  continues to urge you not to believe in the situation.  This time you listen to this soft voice from within.  You tacitly, at first, choose to create in your mind a happier scenario as to what is going to happen.  You calm yourself and know that happiness is the only thing you wish to cling to.  This fear contains no happiness.  You cannot cling to this fear.  You must let it go, even though it seems to envelop your entire being.

Maybe it was just a spark of a moment, but a moment it was and you  turn your attention to something a bit brighter.  You listen to some music.  You wash the dishes in your kitchen or vacuum your floor. You like how you feel and you have heard that you can choose happy over fear. Fear tries to remind you of the situation and begs to get your attention.

This time, you will not believe in the fear. You tell yourself that fear is dark and happiness is light — bright light.  You begin to sing a song you learned as a child, This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!  This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!  This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine, let it shine, all the time, let it shine.    You begin to feel better and you know you are back in the happy zone.

And then comes the most amazing thing.  Your whole situation vanishes.  What you thought was going to happen, is transferred into an entirely different scenario.  Instead of the bill being overdue, it has a credit on the collection line.    Instead of you being fired, you are called in to participate in a new project and even get a raise.  These things happen in the happy zone.  And it’s available for everyone.  Your decision to choose to focus on what you wanted and not on what you did not want changed everything right before your eyes.

Today, meet each challenge with a little confidence.  Know you are a wonderful  super someone who is still uncovering what is, very joyful and wishing to stay that way.  Know you choose to live a life of love.  Love is always the answer.  Take it with you throughout this day.