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Commitment to Write: Day 2 February 2019

Posted on by Manny & Barbara Dean Aliaga
Acceptance

Yes. Acceptance seems to be the doorway to any number of possibilities. An intentional pause can effect our point of view. Often we are unaware of what we are seeing. With a new mindful perspective comes change! The winds blow in a new direction and our landscape changes. We have an array of choices!

Our words can create a holding pattern, reminiscent of the Groundhog Day Movie with Bill Murray. (Happy Groundhog Day BTW! Hope you can have fun today!)

When we talk, we usually are not even aware of the effect we produce. An example:

Q: I have recently lost my job, and I am panicked I won’t find another job. I can’t imagine this book can help me?

A: Well, it can. You may not realize it, but look at your words, “lost” and “panicked”. These words are holding you hostage to a situation you really don’t want. Is there a gentler way to talk about your situation? … Put new words to your situation. Change your way of thinking about this situation, especially in conversation with others. This will open new opportunities for improving your situation.


a quote from “Getting to Happy: Learning to Read Emotional Messages”

For those of you who like word games, it can be fun to change negative, fearful words with words holding encouragement, confidence. You need to be mindful of the negative words before you can play! Try this game at dinner time: Player 1: I can’t; Player 2: I usually enjoy trying.  I bet I can! Player 1: I cooked a terrible dinner! Player 2: I enjoyed being with you tonight.  So fun when certain things turn out!

The idea is to get to a lighter side of life and turn away from words causing doom and gloom!

Stay on the sunny side!

This week I kept a dental appointment. The dental hygienist said, I’m sorry for making your gums so unhappy! They seem very irritated. I instinctively replied, Oh, they’re just super excited to see you! They’re happy as can be! She thought this was hilarious! We both laughed.

Why should it ruin my day over the fact I need to pay more attention to flossing? My gums are obviously reacting to this cleaning. They’ll have lots of time to relax after I leave. And I will floss every day to strengthen my gums! In my mind there is no reason to worry over a situation. I try to accept what has happened and go from there. If I decide to worry or someone else tries to provide me with more worrisome words, I like to turn away from those thoughts and face towards something funny, happy and creative. In other words, I am getting better at knowing what I like and what I don’t like. I can choose what I like if I stop and leave what I don’t like in its tracks!

Happy thoughts cause life-changing vibrational waves of enjoyment well beyond what I could ever feel with negative thoughts. I have taught myself to replace negative words with words holding positive meaning for me. Then any actions will collaborate with joy. My world situation will always be what I allow my heart to inspire.

a quote from “Getting to Happy: Learning to Read Emotional Messages”

Life can be what we wish it to be! What about happy and carefree?! Acceptance is the doorway. And the way to get through is to mind your own business without guilt or regret.

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Accepting the situation in front of you, changes everything!

Posted on by Manny & Barbara Dean Aliaga

There are many opportunities to change unhappy situations around us.  I guess we just don’t know that we have that power!

Somehow we have come to believe that the only way to change a situation is to fight against it.  It appears that when bad things happen, we spend the majority of time talking about it and shaking our heads in confusion.  We talk and read about things we don’t like and we are confused how these things continue to escalate.

This happens with world current events and it happens in our world.  Situations present themselves to us; we may not be aware that it is our response to the situation that holds more of the same or changes everything.

I am speaking about situations that are within your present moment awareness.  If you think about it, there are millions, no billions, no an infinite amount of situations taking place at any moment.  You are aware of only one of these situations at a time.

Interesting perception! Only the situations that are within your awareness are the situations you believe as true.  But to another person, even a person in the same room, this very situation that holds all of your attention may not even exist in their world.

So what is it about situations that have the power to enthrall us or crumble our confidence?  What really are situations?  What part of a situation is an illusion? How can situations change in time? Where are we, anyway?

More interesting questions! Here are my answers for now.  We may be amazing beings who are able to create situational moments that are so detailed they can fool even ourselves.  We create these situations to objectify our thoughts.  We can expand as we see what we want and what we don’t want, and even what we want to explore further.

This type of perspective can be very helpful in changing situations that are unpleasant to us.  We now have a way to move on to the next lesson when we accept the situation in front of us.  We don’t have to respond to it or necessarily suffer from it.  The suffering may be coming from an illusion we desire to experience.  Why would you want to suffer, you ask?

I do not know.  I do know, however, that if I don’t want to suffer, and I believe I do not need to suffer, I will begin to live a completely different life.  It may seem like a miracle.  It may seem like a brand new door appears from nowhere, and opens up a new reality.  It has the power to surprise and delight me.

By accepting the situation in front of you, by keeping your heart open with optimism and love, great things can emerge.  Think about it.  You have  probably already experienced moments of exhilaration at one time or another.  Can you remember a lovely situation that completely embraced you?  You may have sustained the experienced the happy situation for hours, even days.  Then, you become a little uneasy and questioned whether this kind of well-being was a bit naive  You may have closed the door and entered another irritating situation that felt more familiar.   But it was miserable.  Hopefully, this article will open more doors to happy situations.  The first step is to allow or accept the door as it presents itself.  There is paradise on earth.  It is up to us to find and allow it through trial and error.

The sooner you realize your inner power to create your reality, the sooner you will be able to break the cycle of pain and suffering.  I welcome your thoughts on this topic.  Life can be just as amazing as us!  It is up to us!

Peace!  My upcoming blog hopefully can give some practical ways to change your situations through acceptance.  I look forward to seeing what will come out of these fingers!  Thank you for reading.