Happy New Year!
Opportunity to re-align with love.
Opportunity to give in to the quiet urges of kindness.
Opportunity to let go of who is right and who is wrong.
Opportunity to love.
A chance to love yourself.so that you can feel loved.
Yes, love yourself! Be kind to yourself!
Opportunity to be the dance, to let go of old ideas that do not support love.
Then love everyone the way you love yourself!
Once you love yourself, everything else is easy.
Possible because you are love!
Love is you!
You are love!
2015, opportunity to align with love.
–Barbara Dean Aliaga
It seems to me we try to reach a state of excellence by waging wars on whatever stands in its way. I look around and see what’s wrong with the picture. And, while I’m looking for what’s wrong, I totally miss what is right. The more I war against poverty, drugs, bad behavior, mistakes in others, it seems the more poverty, drugs, bad behavior and mistakes are around me. I am immersed in anything but excellence.
That is until I stop my little finding faults campaigns and stop waging war on anyone or anything. It starts with acceptance. It starts with stopping in my tracks. Breathing. Pausing. Sh-sh-sh-ing. Stop!
In the silence of the pause, I realize that excellence is all around me. Everywhere. In everything. In me, even! My job is not to find fault with bad, bad behavior in the world. My job is to discover excellence within everything and everyone in the world….even myself.
Hope you join me in this quest for excellence today. Thank you!
I upgraded to a premium level yesterday and was eligible for a new url. Instead of taking WordPress’ suggestion, BarbaraDeanAliaga.com or something that was similarly logical, I meandered downstairs to brainstormed with my husband, Manny. We did the normal kidding around thing until we found a name that has such a great sound and entirely no meaning. Well, it really stems from meaning. Abu is what our grandsons call Abuelo, and Nana is my current name. We eventually discovered AbuNana. Of course, we will each take individual credit for it! Go ahead and say it over and over, Ah’-bu-nana, Ah’-bu-nana. Sounds pretty cool to us. What kind of service would Abunana provide? Would it be an Abunana Self-Help Center? Or an Abunana Design Studio? An Abunana Delicacy Shoppe? An Abunana Self-Publishing? We were getting pretty kidding pretending to answer the phone, Abunana, at your service! Such a lovely way to spend the afternoon.
But really, what about a place where grandparents could be supported in writing and publishing their stories. Wouldn’t that be a fun place to run? What do you think?
After the chanting of Abunana simmered down, I went back upstairs to draw and this is what came out. The first Abunana pillow! Never stop dreaming!
Here it is, the first day back to school today. I remember the new outfit, the anticipation.
I also remember the uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach at the unknown events that might occur in a world I was not creating but was expected to fit into. It was a bit scary. Okay, sometimes it was a lot scary. A lot of the time I shrank down inside myself and watched the clock. It was not until I found something within the school day that interested me that I could survive. Sometimes a drama club or an art class or finding some activity that was meaningful to me, made me feel more at ease.
At any rate, know it isn’t easy to meld into a bigger pot of people apart from your family. Hold on to the fact that you will have a home to return to at the end of the day. Try not to blame your family for all the bad things that happened during the day. Instead, examine what part you played in experiencing these irritating things to happen during the day. Think of ways you could change your actions and reactions that might change the way things are happier tomorrow. The most important thing is for you to create situations that make you happy. You can do this! Talk with your family and friends about school, but know in the end you have to make choices that are good for you to succeed. Keep looking for the treasures that are hidden just for you within the school day. And, if you still cannot find them, talk to your parents and let them know you need help in fitting in. You may need to talk to them more than once, so don’t give up. Keep talking until you feel comfortable at school!
One last thought. In a way, going to school is preparation for going to work in the future. Most likely you will be required to work in order to contribute to your family’s needs. You may as well find solutions now for your uneasiness. It will make a big difference to your life when you are older. Take a deep breath, or several breaths during the day and find your treasures hidden within your day.
I salute you who are returning today. I wish you well. Trust in your reactions and be kind to yourself as you venture out into the world outside of your family!