One thing you can count on: you will be challenged each day of your life.
How you perceive a situation determines your ability to successfully handle a challenging event. And, how you perceive depends on your past experiences and how your brain has reacted in the past. In other words, how your brain has categorized your past experiences, influences how you will respond to similar challenges.
You may have heard the saying, Don’t cry over spilt milk. What does it mean? Perhaps this: the milk has already spilt. Clean it up and let go of past feelings of parental disapproval. That’s the purpose of the milk spilling challenge! You can easily meet the challenge by letting go of past misinformation. You are given an opportunity to change, to free up your daily life.
What about a bigger challenge. What about a bill in the mail. How do you react? Do you suddenly feel fearful? Maybe you can’t pay it right away? Maybe you’ll forget to pay it? Maybe you wish there was an easier way to live from week to week. What if you don’t want to cry over monthly bills?
Pause. Remember the times you were young and unsure of how to budget your life, let alone your lack of wealth. Take a moment to reflect the amazing lessons of bringing needed money in and allotting money to be spent in ways that keep you away from worry.
Whenever a challenge is particularly loud with worry, you know it is important to find out what you dread about this event. Jot down words that resemble fear.
Love is an emotion that can dispel old, unfavorable, fearful emotions. We
Was it when you were listening to a favorite song? When you were with a favorite person? When you were alone in your garden?
Can you unpack your experience of joy to remember what was taking place?
For me, I have a spiritual, non-physical experience of inner expansion. I feel comfortable, satisfied, thankful. It’s who I am. It is like I am at peace body and soul.
It doesn’t have to be a great big old happy feeling. It can be a simmering good feeling of peace, of being a part of all that is, with no exclusivity. It is worth trying to find joy.
When you walk away from the joy that is an innate part of you, you feel off, feel dissatisfied, restless. I have thought these uncomfortable feelings are like a little dragon nudging me away from what I was doing, thinking, saying.
I have thought these anxious feelings are asking me to turn away and pause my life a bit …. Give myself a chance to locate and enjoy JOY.
Hope these brief words inspire you to look within and find your heaven. I have created a design to acknowledge the joy always available to you! I hope you enJOY!
We keep talking about outer space. It may sound like a silly question, but: How mindful are we of earth as apart of this “outer space”. We live as part of the universe. as we know it, and as we aren’t yet to know it. Do you think we can let go of all the stuff that covers our most excellent adventure? Can we let go of things preventing us from experiencing a beautiful life on Earth?
We are living on an amazing planet! We are living now within a most miraculous display of nature. Today, roses will blossom, really become something they weren’t yesterday. You will change too!
We can do anything! We can have the adventure of a lifetime right where we are….. because we ARE in space! Live today like you realize this free reality! Let go of what you look like, what little challenge you are facing. Embrace the space you are in!
Hello. My name is Barbara Dean Aliaga. What you are about to read comes from my current life experience and from the solitude I so much enjoy. I share with you these words in hopes they will spark a conversation within a spectrum of your calm self.
Even if only for a few moments, start your day alone. Sit on the side of your bed and take reassuring breaths. Smile. Think thoughts of comfort, gratitude and joy as you breathe. …just 5-10 minutes.
Encourage the sensitive side of your personality. If you think about it, today we need individuals who are aware of a large, inclusive picture. We need you to make time for your heart.
Your sensitive side is available to everyone to some degree. Some are just born with traits which help us see beyond the mere physical. Our environment also helps us make choices about how we want to behave. Life is a wonderful gift, one I feel I want to share.
When I am quiet for a bit, I find joy. It seems like it is just waiting to meet up with me. So, i’m wondering about you. Do you lead with your heart today? If I’m writing about things in which you have no resonance, please take a couple of moments and read to the end.
Even if you think sensitivity to others and to the world around you is non-sense, what if you keep your heart as your confidant. When you have an urge to get even, or make your truth known, take time out with a cup of tea or coffee or just a glass of wonderful, ice-cold water.
Check in with the sensitive inclination. Take a breath and make this a better day for you and for the world!
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As they say, life is not a dress rehearsal. I have known for a long time we choose the paths we walk on. Sometimes, we aren’t aware of what we chose so we suffer until we understand it is not too late to turn around.
Just do it! …another saying that helps if we let it. Just choose a path that leads away from fear, discouragement, soreness of spirit. Choose a path that helps let us breathe and allow the beauty around us.
Today, give it a go. Be the captain of your ship. What path will you take?
I was in a playful mood and explored the delights of digital watercolor capabilities. Amazing! …and so not messy. This is a cute, pretty floral bouquet. This graphic illustration is fresh, confident and fun I hope you enjoy your day!
I am awake. I am making peace with love. What does this mean to you?
Today I am breathing and taking time to notice. I like to be aware of being-ness. — of participating in the outer space and inner space of my existence. Can you find ways to connect with your existence.
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What stands in the way of love? Answer this question and you will have successfully challenged your confusion .
What stands in the way of love? Fear is my answer. Fear stands in the way of love when I refuse to see why it shows up in the first place. Fear blocks out the warm, content, good-feeling rays of love. When fear rattles my cage, I don’t like it. Yet, I feel confused about it and unaware how to change the feeling.
Fears are like clouds. Fears come from me as some sort of caution sign. Fears hold my attention. If I ignore feelings of fear, they make me feel uncomfortable, like I’m thrown around by the waves you see in the above picture.
I sometimes compare these gray-feeling moments to having the flu. If I take better care of myself the fears subside. I seem to be unsure of tools of fear prevention, but I know I’m on the right track when I stop whatever I’m doing or thinking.
What might be these lessons? I know my lessons have to do with awareness of my dis-alignment with my best-better-fair-not so fair-self. An example, I want to call an old friend, but I am fearful so don’t call and begin to feel bad about loosing friends over the years. A simple call would challenge this fear. Once I tend to my fear, it dissipates. I return to alignment and am at peace. Because I have lived many moments of peace I know it’s possible to be at peace from within.
There are moments I experience beautiful unity with the best, most loving of myself. In these moments, all of me are in gorgeous harmony. I sense no longer am I at odds with myself, but one happy character.
Whenever i stop and explore and tend to my fears, I no longer am conscious of conflicting feelings. I am aware the waters have calmed and all is well.
I wonder if these words are clear enough. Are you reading this, aware of the fluctuation between feelings of love and fear? For me, it is a continual and deeply important internal conversation.
Gather my crayons and color book! I'm leaving home today. My apple tree is full of blossoms Softly bewitching my sight, Oh, it's good to have such a delight!
I'm leaving home today. To visit my favorite tree. The tree is growing just like me, Its bark is bursting at the seams. Oh, it's good to sit with these daydreams!
There’s sap oozing escaping its seams.
What's this? A tiny, green worm, inching its way to my book I see it has set its course on the flower near the babbling brook! Oh, it's good to have such a good look!
Oh, what a special place I’ve found.
My color book is on my lap. Crayons hanging in a bag. My feet against the tree trunks, My back eased. Oh, it's good to be so pleased!
My worm leaves, a pattern of holes
I've run away from home To the birds, butterflies, worms. They know where I am and find interest in me. A butterfly is not too busy to land and say hi. Oh, it's good to be gentle and shy!
As I begin to color, I add some shadings And then I add kitties and doodles of joy. I draw my family sitting with me in the tree. We hang out and laugh, and sing, we are free! Oh, it's good to leave home today!
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I keep thinking about the many myths about dragons, and how use this imaginative creature to explore what comes from within. How will we tame our dragons? How will we create wonderful, adventuresome growth through knowledge of our dragons?
Today we are offering several guest creators #ZazzleMade for your perusal. We hope you will find these symbolic designs helpful to hang your thoughts around allowing peace and happiness within your world. …perhaps your curiosity will be peaked.
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Let’s try this on for size. You hear a lot about the importance of staying in the present moment: at home, at work, at play. But its not as easy as it sounds. Being present to the moment takes more than a bit of consciousness.
And, what do you think takes us away from the present moment?
I propose fear. Fear can be a security guard who won’t let us enjoy our presence, without passing the bravery test. And, I propose fear’s co-guard, guilt, who identifies our lack in endless ways.
How do we awakened from unconsciousness.
When we were children, we had conversations with ourselves. We were delighted by the little bug we saw and the clouds that looked like a bunny. We loved to say, I love you, Mommy.I love you, Daddy.
Something happened as we grew up. We found consciousness too painful, and we put ourselves on auto drive. We tried to numb ourselves back into comfy, cozy unconsciousness. …until we were rudely shaken with life’s situations. And now, we believe the situations we find ourselves in reflect our greatness or weakness.
Yet situations, of themselves, are neither good or bad.
I’ve been thinking.... ooo, that is problematic right there! Thinking is not necessarily a sign of consciousness, the thought process can continue when we are unconsciousness. I’m pretty sure thinking continues on and on, like a looping video without us even knowing about it. How else could we spend countless hours what we call social media.
If these episodes are not recognized and redirected, we may be doomed to live outside of the present moment and imprisoned within the pseudo-world of yesterday and tomorrow. Now that’s a gloomy picture to start out your day!
As you awaken to your current situation, you may wonder why you can be so happy at some times, and then, find yourself feeling sad, hopeless, anxious. Are you aware these little tapes may be running on loop, right now?
You might consider that there’s been a whole series of episodes of previous life experiences playing, actively dialoguing with the whole of your body.
Every cell is affected by these messages.
It seems to me, life is a delicious adventure, with awakenings to new ways of thinking about ourselves and the world around us. As I have gone through my lifetime as Barbara, dealing with symbolic angels and dragons within my very being is a reality.
As I have awaken to a new level, I see what I now know. This constant adventuring and changing from what I have learned gives me great hope for myself, my family, my friends, my country and all humans who i may disagree with. It is within our nature to learn from doing.
The concept of slaying your dragons does not appear to work, however. When we don’t listen it comes back with more intensity.
Fight or flight doesn’t appear to work. One war does not stop all future wars. There appears to be a hopeful truth, however. Perhaps, with great respect, we try to tame our dragons with love, joy, and openness to all humans? What if we are to allow more kindness and less judgment, accusations, defensive arguments. Explaining to others how wrong they are, only has led to rudeness, anger, social discord.
Compassion harmonized with beautiful strength seems to be where my life adventure is unfolding. I am challenging fears with respect to my inner dragons. They become louder as I have ignored them. It appears this is the built-in safe-guard I have created.
Again, fighting or closing out those who don’t agree with me does not promote growth,
Joy, love, understanding, and fear. This fear is not a sign I should run or fight. More and more I suspect my fears are signs I am about to enter a grand new adventure! This adventure is a substantial training ground: should I face each fearful surprise … like a broken down house, or broken bodies, or fears of losing loved ones? give me new insights.
In other words, my dragons guard the treasures of life. With the many myths, stories, dramas, we are taught how to live rich, brave lives. Whether we are aware or not, we may be going through our magnificent opportunities. We just need to remember to go where fools fail to tread, be not afraid. We can do this, if we are prepared with love, hope, belief, compassion, forgiveness, acceptance, inclusiveness, laughter, gentleness, and understanding we will make mistakes, for adventures always teach us more.
According to news media, we don’t always change the world for good.
We don’t change things for good when we war against what we want changed. It just doesn’t work! Wars usually create more trouble than good: war against drugs, war against climate change, war against poverty, war against racism, etc. We sometimes focus so forcefully on what we don’t like, we inflate our problem for ourselves and others.
Also, I don’t think we change what we don’t like by making people afraid. We get people’s attention by means of fear, but we don’t change the lifestyle of people we are scaring. We create focus on what we are afraid of, like building walls around countries, or locking up people we are afraid of, or even killing people we fear. Fight or flight. It seems like news stories consistently ignite human fear.
The solution is simple! We can solve challenges, make changes, in a more calm, peaceful, loving way!
I tell myself: Changes are made in MY world, by MY perspective!
I strive to live a peaceful life regardless of any person, place or thing.
A better way to say this:
I CAN live in a peaceful world, when I AM LIVING A PEACEFUL LIFE!
I have been groomed, reformed, refined, reprimanded, chiseled, quieted, asked to speak up, asked to change my mind, told I am naive, until I have felt it hard to sing my song!
Sing a song, keep it simple, keep it strong. Sing of good things, not bad. Sing of happy, not sad. (Song I remember from the Carpenters).
So here it is. I primarily work in collaboration with myself.
I delight when I see other humans who share this intuitive understanding. We often pass along our way and acknowledge the other.
Our world does change one step at a time. It changes in ways we like when we allow the change we want into our own life.
To Sum Up: Here is a poem I came across yesterday on Facebook.
My grandmother once gave me a tip:
In difficult times, move forward in small steps.
Do what you have to do, but little by little.
Don't think about the future
or what may happen tomorrow.
Wash the dishes.
Remove the dust
Write a letter.
Make a soup.
Advance step by step.
Take a step and stop.
Rest a little.
Take another step.
And then another.
You won't notice, but your steps will. grow more and more.
And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying.
Author: Elena Mikhalkova
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Pickleball is quickly taking hold of a popular form of team exercise! Have you ever tried the game? Are you hooked? The people we have talked to meet at least once a week to play in a club. There’s an old tennis court on Camano that has been transformed into a Picketball Court club! It’s definitely popular with old and young.
We were first introduced to Pickleball before the Pandemic. Manny joined the YMCA, and even though he could not participate in the sport, he designed and I added digital touches to a cartoon pickle for the group who were playing.
Now that the Pandemic is subsiding, Pickleball is more popular than ever! Do you know people who play Pickleball?
Yesterday … today … and … tomorrow, I am going to hear about rising prices! …from a news story, a friend, a salesman, social media and other surprise places.
This morning, I thought it interesting to remember statistics are compared to past timelines. Prices are at an all time high! What will I do? I’m responsible for others! …. I need to remember prices are simply compared to previous prices. It is like calling me back to times long ago. I am aware of the fear impact tapes now running through my head. I like sharing my past stories, but I don’t want to go back.
I feel alerted to take notice though! …to worry! …to plan! …to feel helpless! …to doubt my great heroic self!
But take a look at a bigger picture. Prices have always risen. It doesn’t matter who in the government, neighborhood, family is in charge.
What if I lived with the reality of prices rising? How would this acceptance change my attitude?
With age can come wisdom! Prices increase, taxes increase, and salaries increase. I feel a need to stop listening to empty threats of doom, and listen to my heart.
When I can memorialize times I met my financial needs, … when I had food on the table, I lessen my focus on concern.
The main thought for me is this: I wish to balance what I hear and read with quiet moments of listening to my inner assurance of love.
We hope you enjoy these beautiful wedding invitations! A couple of days ago, Manny and I celebrated 53 years together. Our advice: keep lighthearted humor, compassion, kindness and forgiveness woven into the days ahead!
I have a love/hate relationship with keeping my home clean and uncluttered to my imagined standards. I often find myself feeling guilty for not taking care of every little thing a home demands. … according to my imagined standards.
I’m writing today to share with you what I want to avoid, and that is, imbalance. When I say imbalance, I mean I am happiest when my physical world is aligned with my non-physical world. So here are my thoughts worth sharing.
Shuttering with Cluttering
Have you ever walked into a room and felt sudden irritation?
Instead of blaming others, know it is a message coming directly from you. Look around. It doesn’t seem like anyone else is bothered by the state of the room.
In every moment there is an ebb and flow of tidiness/clutter! …Leftover dishes, empty bottles on a kitchen counter, papers, pencils, clothes on the floor or over a chair, shoes scattered around, etc.
We may not realize the thoughts triggered simply by seeing a messy sink.
When someone helps around the house and everything turns back to house beautiful, you breathe with quiet satisfaction! If you demanded that someone clean up their mess, their face tells you they don’t share your private standard, and don’t understand your sudden anger.
Don’t be surprised if you feel agitation when you don’t meet your standards. Avoid escalating this emotion which is trying to help you! It says: Something is off. So, SBYS (Stop before you speak)
Most times I can keep my surroundings reasonably tidy and clean, even with lots of cooking, art projects, on-going experimental projects. Keeping myself mentally balanced and reasonable, makes life enjoyable.
But once in a while, I find myself suddenly irritated by a room that was fine with me 10 minutes ago. Now I am irritated by the clutter.
Attention! Something’s off!
If I stop and think about this (become conscious of what is going on), I will receive and listen to unsettling feelings. Nervousness, agitation is sometimes awakened in my shadow memories, alerting me to uncertainty, dissatisfaction, self-disappointment.
Agitation is an emotional message.
I try to remember not to worry whether the irritation is about the people in the room, some memory, or the mess I see in the coffee table. I feel like yelling at the person in front of me! I remember in the knick of time to pause and take a deep breath!
Better retreat to internal self! Better stop for a moment!
I am wired to observe my ups and downs in life. Yet, when I feel off, I still need to make a conscious decision, every moment, to quiet myself down and choose the direction that feels better to me. Reword the phrases coming to me into softer responses.
Tidiness and Messiness are just examples of triggering these ATTENTION feelings. I translate these alert feelings as signs. I am not living in the way I have imagined I want to live.
I can either ignore the feelings by changing my goals. I can relax my standards and feel better. I can tidy up. I can take a nap and then meet my personal standards.
What I am learning more and more is this: I am the one who sets the goals for myself, … or let others set my goals. Goals have infinite possibilities.
I can change them, improve them, take a break from them, … it is up to me. I may wish to make a big change, a small change, or even ignore the whole thing, and take a nap or go for a ride!
A messy room is seldom an emergency. Sit back, breathe, and find many ways to talk about your wish for a room and the people you live with, plus your heavy schedules. Find a more gentler way to think about clutter and tidy areas, and decide if your standards fit who your are or want to be.
SUMMARY – Facing Your Created Goal Standard!
LISTEN TO YOUR FEELINGS OF AGITATION
Something is off! You are not following your own goals OR
Your goals are not coming from you, they may be objectively set.
OR, somewhere in between
MAKE A PLAN OF ACTION
Tidy up to your happy satisfaction, OR
Change your standard to meet your current big picture goals
OR, somewhere in between.
BREATHE AND ENJOY YOUR ABILITY TO HEAR AND RESPOND TO YOUR FEELINGS!
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In 2011 and 2018, I published Indy books to explore how we can rise above melancholy, disappointment and sadness. I still use these books to inspire and raise me above unwanted situations in my pursuit of happiness — joy, peace and love.
I try to choose my next direction by observing the present-moment and how I am feeling. I use this method:
I purposely let go and choose these new thoughts until I feel better
Simply put, if in the moment I feel something bad or off, instead of focusing on external situations and attempting to physically correct the situation, I temporarily move away from the person, thing or place I am in. I reach for feelings that feel better.
My feelings are telling me about how far or close I am from my true forever-loving, best self. My feelings are a navigation tool coming from my ever-loving self: Wake up! Alert! You’re going the wrong direction! You are off!
And, what is the message to self?
The negative feeling tells me I am viewing people, places and things, quite differently than my true self sees them. I am being told by my feelings, I am way off, out of sorts, in stark contrast to my true self who lives in a balanced state of acceptance of good times and bad. I am able to allow and turn toward happy, joyful, loving thoughts in the midst of the shadows, contrasts, undesirables.
This has been my life’s Art-Board. I love feeling aligned with the feelings of my desires.
I believe feelings play an authentic part in helping me navigate through my days.
I am on the high sea of life, with many challenges. When I listen to and adjust my feelings I live a royal, happy life. When I find something that knocks me out of the kingdom, I find ways to remind myself how I wish to feel, which activates thoughts and words, until I feel better. I leave the worry, guilt, concern, gloom behind …. Even when it seems to be logical to remain in this negative, worrisome state.
In these senior years, I move around many layers of feelings during the day.
What continues to change for me is the fact that I would rather be happy, even in the midst of a storm from within. I have the power to change my mind and choose to do what makes me happy, even before I have achieved an external solution to a challenge.
I am confident the negative feeling attached to a particular person, place or thing, comes from within me. And, herein, is the important lesson:
I can wallow in the sorrow until I realize it is not in others, but in me!
I can choose stay in the situation and observe my feelings as I suffer.
I can choose to work through the situation, yet change my attitude toward the situation as something to work through with the enjoyment of improving my choices at this precise moment. …relief comes when I have chosen to leave behind whatever led me to this moment.
I spend a lot of time alone. I also reach out to others. It is in my alone time, I can get through tough times with less blaming of others.
It’s always a good idea to find something to smile about. Today, I’m showing you two designs. A picture tells a thousand words … perhaps about your inner emotions.
Are you able to sing a little sunshine song today? If not, what direction will you take to find the smile from within. It’s a happy surprise to get there by leaving the here you’re not currently liking.
“To say it was a beautiful day would not begin to explain it. It was that day when the end of summer intersects perfectly with the start of fall.” – Ann Patchett
“It is the glistening autumnal side of summer. I feel a cool vein in the breeze, which braces my thought, and I pass with pleasure over sheltered and sunny portions of the sand where the summer’s heat is undiminished, and I realize what a friend I am losing.” – Henry David Thoreau
“If you want to make a statement, wear purple.” – Baron Davis
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BTW I am still readingThe Fire That Never Dies: Dragons of the West. When I was in my early 30s, I self-studied the works of Carl Jung. I also spoke with many of my friends and family to incorporate what I understood into my life. Matthew Markell seems to be expertly familiar with Carl Jung and also, Joseph Campbell, whose name is synonymous with mythology. I usually borrow from the library, but I fortunately bought this book and will be reading it over and over with appreciation.
Each time you stop to eat or drink today, pause, take 3 deep breaths. And, observe your feelings as you align your thoughts to what you think comfy, cool, and calm feel like. Won’t take but a minute. It’s like putting an oar in the river to get where you want to go!