There’s no place like home. These gifts bring home along, no matter where you go. ….feel good products.
The painting scene came from a one-of-a-kind, stucco home just west of the neighborhood drug store. It held an magical surprise for me whenever I passed on the way to school. And, I always glanced into the windows of the house to discover the occupants.
Yesterday … today … and … tomorrow, I am going to hear about rising prices! …from a news story, a friend, a salesman, social media and other surprise places.
This morning, I thought it interesting to remember statistics are compared to past timelines. Prices are at an all time high! What will I do? I’m responsible for others! …. I need to remember prices are simply compared to previous prices. It is like calling me back to times long ago. I am aware of the fear impact tapes now running through my head. I like sharing my past stories, but I don’t want to go back.
I feel alerted to take notice though! …to worry! …to plan! …to feel helpless! …to doubt my great heroic self!
But take a look at a bigger picture. Prices have always risen. It doesn’t matter who in the government, neighborhood, family is in charge.
What if I lived with the reality of prices rising? How would this acceptance change my attitude?
With age can come wisdom! Prices increase, taxes increase, and salaries increase. I feel a need to stop listening to empty threats of doom, and listen to my heart.
When I can memorialize times I met my financial needs, … when I had food on the table, I lessen my focus on concern.
The main thought for me is this: I wish to balance what I hear and read with quiet moments of listening to my inner assurance of love.
I have a love/hate relationship with keeping my home clean and uncluttered to my imagined standards. I often find myself feeling guilty for not taking care of every little thing a home demands. … according to my imagined standards.
I’m writing today to share with you what I want to avoid, and that is, imbalance. When I say imbalance, I mean I am happiest when my physical world is aligned with my non-physical world. So here are my thoughts worth sharing.
Shuttering with Cluttering
Have you ever walked into a room and felt sudden irritation?
Instead of blaming others, know it is a message coming directly from you. Look around. It doesn’t seem like anyone else is bothered by the state of the room.
In every moment there is an ebb and flow of tidiness/clutter! …Leftover dishes, empty bottles on a kitchen counter, papers, pencils, clothes on the floor or over a chair, shoes scattered around, etc.
We may not realize the thoughts triggered simply by seeing a messy sink.
When someone helps around the house and everything turns back to house beautiful, you breathe with quiet satisfaction! If you demanded that someone clean up their mess, their face tells you they don’t share your private standard, and don’t understand your sudden anger.
Don’t be surprised if you feel agitation when you don’t meet your standards. Avoid escalating this emotion which is trying to help you! It says: Something is off. So, SBYS (Stop before you speak)
Most times I can keep my surroundings reasonably tidy and clean, even with lots of cooking, art projects, on-going experimental projects. Keeping myself mentally balanced and reasonable, makes life enjoyable.
But once in a while, I find myself suddenly irritated by a room that was fine with me 10 minutes ago. Now I am irritated by the clutter.
Attention! Something’s off!
If I stop and think about this (become conscious of what is going on), I will receive and listen to unsettling feelings. Nervousness, agitation is sometimes awakened in my shadow memories, alerting me to uncertainty, dissatisfaction, self-disappointment.
Agitation is an emotional message.
I try to remember not to worry whether the irritation is about the people in the room, some memory, or the mess I see in the coffee table. I feel like yelling at the person in front of me! I remember in the knick of time to pause and take a deep breath!
Better retreat to internal self! Better stop for a moment!
I am wired to observe my ups and downs in life. Yet, when I feel off, I still need to make a conscious decision, every moment, to quiet myself down and choose the direction that feels better to me. Reword the phrases coming to me into softer responses.
Tidiness and Messiness are just examples of triggering these ATTENTION feelings. I translate these alert feelings as signs. I am not living in the way I have imagined I want to live.
I can either ignore the feelings by changing my goals. I can relax my standards and feel better. I can tidy up. I can take a nap and then meet my personal standards.
What I am learning more and more is this: I am the one who sets the goals for myself, … or let others set my goals. Goals have infinite possibilities.
I can change them, improve them, take a break from them, … it is up to me. I may wish to make a big change, a small change, or even ignore the whole thing, and take a nap or go for a ride!
A messy room is seldom an emergency. Sit back, breathe, and find many ways to talk about your wish for a room and the people you live with, plus your heavy schedules. Find a more gentler way to think about clutter and tidy areas, and decide if your standards fit who your are or want to be.
SUMMARY – Facing Your Created Goal Standard!
LISTEN TO YOUR FEELINGS OF AGITATION
Something is off! You are not following your own goals OR
Your goals are not coming from you, they may be objectively set.
OR, somewhere in between
MAKE A PLAN OF ACTION
Tidy up to your happy satisfaction, OR
Change your standard to meet your current big picture goals
OR, somewhere in between.
BREATHE AND ENJOY YOUR ABILITY TO HEAR AND RESPOND TO YOUR FEELINGS!
I’ve been “retired” at the age of 72 since 2018. I’ve been a hobby artist since childhood. In 2005 with mild success, I joined Art.com and CafePress, made videos on YouTube under the name of Artsali. In 2011, I joined Zazzle. After 2018, I spent a major part of my time, working on digital art refinement.
Along with purchasing a subscription to Adobe Products: Photoshop, Lightroom, Illustrator, and more, I have enjoyed learning many secrets to designing with my iPad, computer and laptop. It is amazingly fun! It is a happy addiction! I have joined Society6 and Redbubble. All of it delights me. It is my investment in my mental health which colors everything, and an adventure in our financial future. So, I do look at marketing aspects of selling art products on-line.
When I was employed, I had a fine reputation in marketing success and training others how to educate the public to the advantages of extraordinary service. I think it was natural to sell my high standards to the employees within my charge. My motto was, You will never go wrong, when you champion a patient.
Yet, it is a different matter when marketing myself. To me, selling art on-line is like boasting about myself…. a kind of, look what I can do … and this attitude holds me back.
How comfortable are you with publishing yourself, or freelancing? Do you have an agent? Do you use an on-line marketing firm … and if you do, is it successful (up to your goal standards)? I would appreciate hearing from people who are able to turn a hobby into a financial supplement or livelihood income without uneasiness.
In the meantime, I will continue to create into a mysterious void.
If it were easy, everyone would do it! Those words have the power to keep on with my projects.
Hitting your head against a wall usually doesn’t create a doorway!. Compliance with these words are really hard for me. I replace the recommendation with Never give up!
So, how do we market ourselves and our products into a successful enterprise? It’s trial and error, while watching your goals without drama, and focusing on the enjoyment of creativity. Educating, rather than boasting may also be helpful.