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Getting To Happy

Hi everyone!  I’m looking forward to the completion of a work-in-process:  Getting To Happy.  It should be ready for print in December!  What a wonderful, fun project.  It just keeps getting better.

Here is a partial draft as an introduction.  Enjoy!  And, keep smiling!

My Loyalty To Happiness

This book is written for me, and offered to you! I find myself struggling when I unconsciously observe situations around me. I often observe sickness, aging, repetitive suffering, misunderstanding, inability to relate in ways that inspire and allow happiness. I know happiness exists eternally somewhere deep inside. I want to revisit my natural inclination to live a happier, more satisfying life. I want to develop physical representations that are pleasing to me by elevating my attitude. I invite you to come along with me. If you are serious about living a happy life, this can be the book to visit often.

I have been told repeatedly that all good things must come to an end. Family members have insinuated that you can’t be happy all the time. Even though I find myself sinking beyond my natural state of happiness, I firmly believe it is always present. It is up to me to allow the frequency that matches happiness. Happiness is my natural state of being. It is possible to live happily ever after. It is possible to conduct myself within certain attitudes that match happiness. There is little to be gained for me to resonate with the lower vibrations of negative thinking. Happiness doesn’t live there. You can disagree with me. You may consider the pursuit of happiness an immature way to approach life. We are free beings capable of choosing any number of thoughts and attitudes. These writings will help you recognize the connection between your thoughts and attitudes, the guiding force of emotional energy and your physical and material outcomes.

I leave the world of happiness whenever I block my natural pathway with negative illusionary thoughts such as irritation, frustration, worry, apprehension, anger and despair. The experience can be like finding myself within a pinball game where my thoughts bounce back and forth against bumper synapses. I may find myself a long way from happiness, when I am comparing myself to family and friends. As I become aware of these thoughts, and reign them in, I can immediately enter the world of satisfaction and peace. When I am not focusing on fears and concerns provided me by the world news, I can immediately enter the world of quiet, cooperation and love.

Happy thoughts cause life-changing,  waves of vibration that travel well beyond what I could ever do with actions stemming from duty or guilt. I have taught myself to replace negative words with those that hold positivity. Then any actions will collaborate with joy. Your world will always be what you imagined.

….more to come!

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What are your feelings telling you?

EmotionsI’m talking about cautionary feelings today!

I have always considered myself intuitive. Certain feelings made me think I was receiving cautionary messages from someone who had a bigger vision than I.  I would not go into a store when this negative feeling came to me.  Or I would choose another campsite when this uneasy feeling came over me.  I sometimes would get a hunch about someone.

I understood negative feelings to be messages directing me to avoid certain danger.  I imagined that I was being protected.  I became apt at recognizing these emotions and responding accordingly.

I was vigilant.  I watched for negative emotions. I recoiled and ceased to participate until I could feel better. I was proud that I could recognize these messages and save myself from an unknown fear!

I now realize that these interpretations are not only rescuing me from unhappy situations, they are putting me in a cloister safety zone.  I can continue using negative emotions as my personal safety net, but my life  becomes narrower and narrower.

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Participation is one of my biggest desires.  Yet my desires were conflicted by refraining to participate.  I needed to take a second look at my attitude.

True or False:  Negative emotions send messages of fear-and-flight?

Yes and no.  The question is, has this understanding of intuition served me?  I can only decide this from looking at my life experiences.

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Fleeing more and more opportunities because I feel the “fear emotion” has trended toward isolation and a non-social lifestyle.  It has permitted me to write, paint, play music, meditate and enjoy nature. but is this the only lifestyle I want?  Don’t I love being and sharing with people?

The flee or non-participation approach seemed to work fine for me at one point in my life. Now it doesn’t.

If I felt a negative emotion when I was invited to a party, I would politely give reasons why I could not go.  I read articles that confirmed it was a better idea to Just say no! than to force yourself to do something you didn’t want to do.  It was confusing.  If I was invited to go on an outing and received a negative emotion, I would not go.  If I got an idea to call a friend and a negative emotion came up, I would put off the phone call.  I actually believed this would help me.  I thought to myself, My timing may be off and it is not a good time to call.  I was pretty proud of this intuitive gift of safety.

This approach led down a path where I convinced myself I was predestined to have a more quiet life.  This is something I would need to accept. As time went on, friends gave up on me, thinking that I wasn’t interested in them or what they did.  I had little idea that this approach was leading to the opposite lifestyle that I desired.

And here is wherein the premise is faulty for me.  There is more lovely and luscious life to experience! I am tending more toward the belief it is possible to be safe, enter into unknown situations, and interpret your uneasy emotions as Please take a second look!  It could hold the kind of adventure you are looking for.  I now am moving ahead into new spheres of my life.  How this will happen?   Life experiences are my only way of knowing.

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Life experience tells me that I can participate by changing my point of talking about a situation or thinking about a situation.  Life experience tells me that there is always time to stop and listen to the thoughts that feel bad.  When I hear the thoughts, I have the opportunity to see through different eyes.  In changing my thoughts to a more comfortable, positive attitude about my situation, I change my situation… every time!

So, the way I was thinking of a friend who I wanted to call but didn’t, was triggering an uneasy feeling. I realized I was thinking I might be bothering my friend so I didn’t call.  I consciously changed my thoughts to I always am a loving person and my friends feel good when I call .  Now it is easier to call.  Now I have something to give.

I know that my attitude can change my ability to see what is in front of me.  Attitudes are like great, magical glasses.  They can change the look of anything! …and instantly!   My cautionary feelings are alerts to look at things in a new light.  You never know what you will see differently.  You never know what can develop within one day when you take second and third looks!

I hope these words are helpful to you and look forward to hearing about your attitude perspectives.  Today is a good day to have a good day!

 

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Feelings Used As Guides

Happy Friday!  Hope you enjoy the adventure of life today!

The video contains repetitive thoughts.  It is one thing to know something and another to act on it.  We can increase our level of happiness by relying on our feelings for direction and then acting on it.

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Speaking of Love

All You Need Is Love

— but how does it serve you?

What if you think of love as an energy force that mirrors whatever it hears from you? What if you think of love as an energy force that is as close to you as you are to yourself?

You use a heart drawing as a symbol of love.  I heart you.   Everyone recognizes its meaning.

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The heart has been beating ever since it became a heart.  It continually beats without stopping until the day you leave your body.  This symbol of love reminds you that life is constantly working in the background and constantly available to you.

When you do not understand how life works, you can become confused and feel like a leaf whirling about in the wind.  Yet the energy of love continues to beat within  every situation at hand.  Because love is non-physical it has the power to expand and duplicate situations that match your desires.  If you run, your heart beats faster.  If you go to sleep your heart beats to a slower pace.  Love expands all physical situations and is attentive to whatever direction you wish to take.  You may think you want to be happy, but your inner conversation complains about this or that. These complaints are heard and activated.  Your complaints are what love expands for you.  Is this something you have ever thought about?

You may not be aware of this interpretation. I hope it is helpful to you.  You may not be aware that love gives you whatever you want!  Now that you are aware, be careful about what you ask for in you thoughts and conversations.  And, what about complaining? When you complain you send requests that say you want to experience what the complaint looks like.

This sense of  expanding seems like something new,  You find yourself in a situation you do not like and you become frightened by the situation.  You become more and more concerned and the situation seems to get worse.  More things happen that make you frightened.

Example One:  You find that your coffee machine is broken.  It makes you clearly upset because you won’t have your coffee before leaving for work.  You begin to feel bad about your whole life.  While you get dressed, you remember how unlucky you are that you never have won the lottery.  It’s a recurring thought and it seems perfectly normal to have this thought as you get ready for work. You go into your closet and feel you can’t find a thing to wear!  You walk out to the car and step in a muddy puddle.  You say, Well, that’s just fine!  I’m a total failure!.    You go in and clean up your shoes, and your internal conversation goes on.  You think about how your mother told you how careless you are. You begin to believe her.  You stand up, look at the clock on the stove and see you are running 15 minutes late.  How did that happen?!  Can’t I even keep track of time.  No wonder I don’t get promotion!    You get in and start the car, and drive to the end of the street.  Sure, the traffic light can’t even help me!  you yell.  It appears that the light is stuck!  You wait and wait and wait!   …and feel miserable!

Example Two:  You find that your coffee machine is broken. You are surprised, but you are trained to STOP and PAUSE.  You look out the window and see the beautiful sunshine and watch a bird pecking around in your garden.  You look back at the coffee machine and remember it appears broken.  You then remember that you have a French Press somewhere in the cupboard.  You get some water to boil.  You begin to feel that this day is going to be a fun adventure.  You remember how much you love French Press coffee, and now have this opportunity.  While you wait for the water to boil, you finish dressing and think about how much you love the outfit you’ve put together.  You turn on some music, put the water into the French Press, squeeze the grounds and enjoy the aroma of the coffee.  Everything good always happens to me! you hear yourself say.  You put your coffee into a traveling mug and head for the door.  You feel great and enjoy the front yard  You see the mud puddle and miss it entirely.  You drive with ease and care.  You are ready to stop at the traffic light, but it continues to be green.  You begin to think about work and how you can make it a better place today! There’s a parking place right in front of your workplace, and you weren’t even looking for one.  Life is always great for you!

These examples demonstrate how the energy of love expands and contracts according to your thoughts.   Change always matches your inner conversations, your inner attitudes, your fears and your confidence.  If you have been following these blogs, you know things are going to continue to expand in a direction that of your thoughts.  Your love energy is matching your internal conversation just as it matches the beating of your heart when you are running or sleeping.

You may have been  threatened by the expansion and contractions of situations  Up to now, you may have  become fearful of bad situations and changes in your life.

How can we handle the fear of change?

Previously we have talked about listening to our emotions.

You can first STOP/PAUSE and look away to something more pleasing, then look back at the changed situation with new eyes.  Unless there is a true life/death situation, you do not need to react immediately.  And, you never need to give into negative impulses.

Ask yourself, how will this situation change with negative attitudes?  if I allow negative impulses to direct me, how will I ever get out of this situation?  You are in a world where the basis of who you are matches your every thought.  When you don’t like something, STOP/PAUSE.  Then ACCEPT THE SITUATION.  Accept it as a mirror of what you’ve been thinking about lately.  Make a note to change your way of complaining or talking or thinking.  Start looking at a brighter side of life and brighter situations will naturally follow.

When you begin to experiment with this basic idea, you will see just how futile it is to place blame on others.  You are free to suffer and you are free to flourish.  Negative thoughts can only produce negative situations.  Positive thoughts can only produce positive situations.  ….  Something to think about today.

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Thoughts can change your situation

Aunt Barbara's Powerful Little Book of Comfort

Yesterday, I wrote about Attitude changes.  Today, I am sharing a chapter in a book I published in 2011.  I hope it will support you in a positive direction that enables a happier level of life. If you are serious about the complaints you make about your situations, there is a way to improve every situation.

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Chapter 3:  Thoughts can change your situation

There is no denying that your loss has changed everything.

It is to be hoped that you took a little break and are ready to begin this recovery process again. You will probably agree that what you are going through is a crash course in spirituality, general semantics, universality, science, philosophy, psychology, and who knows what else. You didn’t ask for this change.

You may be resisting this sudden devastation. You don’t remember anyone asking if you wanted to change. And, that feeling hurts! Whether your God is a picture of a loving father, a mighty deity, a universe, a flower, tree or river, the stars above or an unknown energy, I hope love is the center of your understanding.

Depending on your understanding of how things should be, you could experience an equivalent surprise. You may feel confusion. You may even feel that your belief system has let you down. And that hurts worst of all. You may feel that whatever your understanding is, it has allowed this loss to occur. How could this happen, you repeat to yourself throughout the day. I didn’t think this could ever happen to me. You are lost in your surprise and you are drowning in your sorrow.

Probably you feel like crying right now. When you read the words above, your whole reality changes to sadness. Thoughts created these emotions. You can control your thoughts that lead to unhappy feelings.

Consider this. Your attitude, your thoughts, can create 100 percent of your happiness or unhappiness. Thoughts have power. A very clever person came up with this interesting piece of information: when you count the letters in “attitude” as they fall in the alphabet they add up to 100%.

A=1 T=20 T=20 I=9 T=20 U=21 D=4 E= 5 Word = 100 percent

This is a brilliant way to remember that your attitude will produce one hundred percent of your reality. If the majority of your day is spent with an attitude of sorrow, there is nothing to be expected but a sorrowful day. It does not mean that you have to sustain positive attitudes 100% of the day. However, the more positive attitudes or thoughts you can entertain during the day, the happier your situation seems to become. You draw more, and more happy thoughts to your mind and your reality manifests more, and more happy situations for you and those around you.

When a loved one dies or leaves you in marriage, your attitude can be nothing less than sorrowful. You and your loved one may have been so very close, and now you are overflowing with thoughts of separation and loss.

When you suddenly end up in the hospital with a devastating disease, your attitude can be nothing less than dreadful. You are filled with thoughts of loss.

When you lose your job or your home, your attitude can be nothing short of fear. You are filled with thoughts of loss.

In all of these scenarios, your initial attitude will be unhappy. The rush of unhappy thoughts cause a blanket of unhappy situations.

Drugs that can suppress these sad thoughts are available and may be useful to you. There can be another way to let the negative thoughts drift off into oblivion by replacing them with warm, happy thoughts. I am here to help you get through.

The key is to begin soon to redirect all of this unhappiness toward attitudes of well-being. Because if you allow yourself to continue down the road of misery, you begin to construct a more permanent tape recording that will be played over and over and over. Each time it is played you will feel bad and you will hopelessly create a sad reality and wonder why.

There are moments after a loss that you wish you could have done or said something differently and you become entangled in those self-defeating thoughts. It will do no good to continue to try to relive these moments. You can only learn from any feeling that you have and remember how you want to act when future opportunities present themselves. You can replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts in a split second.

This is an opportunity, a way to change things before they become your way of life. You cannot ask people to rescue you from the pain and continually host thoughts of sorrow.

Little by little, you need to build roads, make inner tape recordings that make you feel happier. This is a gradual process and you are beginning and succeeding as you read and as you create your positive thoughts.

You may have always thought that you had little to do with your reality. You may have heard from earliest years, “What will be, will be”. I have experienced that it is a good thing to accept

what is, what has taken place. I have also experienced that I can cause a brighter future by living with positive thoughts in the present moment. I have experienced the fact that I can change things with my attitude. I am convinced that your thoughts can cause a happier reality.

What are positive thoughts? They are easy to identify. Positive thoughts cause good feelings, like wellness, peacefulness, ease, cooperation and laughter, to name a few. Negative thoughts cause bad feelings, like disease, irritation, arguments, anger, and bullying. It is simple. It is straightforward. I often wonder why so often the differentiation eludes most of us. I often observe the internal struggle to govern our thoughts.

Thoughts seem to magically appear and we are unconscious of their origin. This unconsciousness is counterproductive to our desire for happiness. We can choose our thoughts. More clearly, we can choose to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Now I’ve challenged you! Now you can leave your miserable feelings and come to a state of happiness for the rest of your life! It is your choice to become conscious of what is going on in your mind.

Sometimes the easiest way to leave negative thoughts is to do something physical. If you’re feeling overwhelmed now, it might help to go to the closest sink and wash your hands. Take your time, use soap and suds up. Feel the water flow through your fingers. Smell the fragrance. Wash your hands until you begin to feel better. Listen to your breathing. See if you can smile at your amazing hands. See if you can find yourself. Now.

If you are in a state of confusion because of a sudden loss, you have a unique opportunity to open your limited view of heaven and earth. You have an excellent opportunity to grow in wisdom and grace.

I can hear you saying, I don’t want this opportunity. I want the things the way they were. I want things back to the way they were. That is indeed an attitude, but one that does not render happiness. It is a negative attitude that you are a victim and with that attitude you will produce a life for yourself that reflects a victim’s lifestyle. Is that really what you want? Didn’t you begin this book so that you would no longer be a victim? Didn’t you want to be happy? Didn’t you ask whether you would ever be happy again? How can you move pass this loss, you ask?

You move pass it by consistently creating an attitude that is positive. Remember positive attitudes produce happy outcomes. Negative attitudes produce unhappy outcomes. It is simple. …and that is the big surprise. It is simple.

Choose Attitudes That Create Better Situations: Consider the difference in Positive Thinking versus Negative Thinking.

I am thankful for what I have versus I am afraid I won’t have enough.

I know things will turn out all right versus I’m afraid I’m in for a rough time.

I love all people versus People always let me down.

I am the luckiest one in the world versus never win anything.

I wonder what I can do for someone today? Versus I wonder if someone will help me today.

I’m going to find something to eat today that makes me happy versus There’s never anything good to eat in this house.

I will have what I need versus I never get what I want.

I’m going to call a friend today versus Why don’t my friends call me.

I’m grateful for my general health versus I hope I don’t catch the flu that;s going around.

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The Joy of Attitude Adjustments

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My attitude creates a scope of vision toward everything that is happening in my life.

A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E

I love to frequently remind everyone I meet, that the sum of the placement of letters in the word, attitude, adds up to 100, ( a=1, t=20, t=20, i=9, t=20, u=21, d=4, e=5; that’s 100%)! One hundred percent of your attitude creates 100% of your current situation.  That may seem like a farfetched idea, but I’ve tested it countless times.

How negative attitudes affect our lives

Negative attitudes narrow and blur our outlook on life and limit our possibilities for solutions.  Negative attitudes seem harmless enough, but 100 % of our views are constricted and match the level of our negativity.    What could be a joyful day turns out to be a series of challenges and stressful surprises.  Our situations mirror our attitudes. We may feel like victims, but we can turn things around easily. When we don’t like our situations, we can always change our attitudes and these new positive attitudes will provide a match with upgraded situations.  It’s fun to see how easily it can be done, and what power we have over our daily lives!

Change your attitude, change your situation.

Try out a variety of positive thoughts that can turn frowns into smiles, stress into ease,  gloom into joy!  Every time you adjust your attitude, you will adjust your ability to affect your situation.

When you stop blaming some outside force for your bad day, you can utilize your attitudes to steer you into bright, new days ahead.

There is not much of a life without joy and quiet enthusiasm.  No one can give you joy but yourself!  So get moving, have a free attitude adjustment on me!  Fun times!

Addendum:  When you continue to believe you don’t have the power to change your situations from bad to a more pleasing situation, your belief IS the attitude that keeps you in your current situation.  Until you change this attitude that you are helpless and doomed to remain in the place you complain about.  From time to time, we all get stuck here.  But we don’t have to stay here.  Improve your attitude and you’ll improve your life!

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Emotional Analytics

Emotional Analytics

Understanding Emotions

I have been a long-time student on the subject of emotions .  Emotions can impact and play important roles in my life.  Emotions energize my physical being one way or another.

The stream of emotions can support my focus on things that interest and delight me.  I have long interpreted emotions as messengers or guides to keeping myself united with myself, my best self.  How I feel about any situation, tells me how aligned I am.

I don’t need to control my emotions, except for perhaps, emotional outbursts that affect other’s well-being.   I also don’t need to explain why negative emotions are present.  I don’t need to look to past memories that are causing this unhappy emotion to be triggered within me.  I don’t need to set blame on someone else or some experience.  Blame, regret and guilt didn’t work when I was young, and it is just as futile now. Emotions are not present to scold me.  Emotions are simply guidelines to mark a path to well-being. Emotions are not emotional at all.  They are triggers of energy to tell me that I am getting closer or further away from my total self.

My happiness comes when I am at home with myself.  I know I am more than a physical body, changing daily by building up and tearing down.  I know I have something more significant about me that is non-physical, a part of me but apart from my body.  When I join my body with my non-physical self, I become a who, a real person. I know this because of the relationship I have had with the energy of emotions.

Adjusting Peaks and Valleys

Well-being for me occurs when I am at peace, joyful, laughing, and open. When I am in this state, I am successful in my life and in my business.   It is then I am energized by happiness and clarity.  My focus is uplifted by a current of blissful energy.  As I write these words, I am following my bliss.  I am within the energy flow of bliss.  I am turning my focus toward things that delight me, things that I am interested in and as I feel better, my physical world follows suit.  My physical situations improve without effort.  This has happened time and time again in my personal life and in my business life.  My focus, my attitude, my perception, or whatever you want to call it, becomes my reality in physical form.

Physical Playground

While I am in this body, I can do just about anything I want.  I can listen to others tell me how I should act or how fearful I should be or any number of things.  I can also become aware and accept my emotions, the way I would listen and accept the directives of my GPS lady who tells me I missed a turn. I can utilize my emotions as guideposts, GPS’s, directives, guardian angels or whoever is believed to be a guide.

What I am saying is certainly not new.  But for me it is fresh on a daily basis.  Life and all its experiences are here for me today and in whatever way I wish to see and choose it!  It is pretty incredible when you think about it.

I can move freely around my life, knowing that I have the non-judgmental energy of emotion to tell me how close I am connected to my non-physical source.  When I am in happier moods, I am closer to all of me.  All of me, why not take all of me, can’t you see I’m no good without you.  That song tells me just how much I want to be aligned with all of me, physical and non-physical and more.  The closer I am aligned, the closer I know I am.

Measuring Emotional Insights

Emotions that don’t feel good, emotions like depression, disappointment, anger, fear, worry, boredom, helplessness, anxiety, regret, guilt, apprehension, don’t have to be feared or even focused upon.  I merely need to make an adjustment in my direction.  My focus creates a vibration of thoughts.  Negative emotions are warning lights to focus on something more positive before I self-destruct.

Emotions are like the best form of analytics available to me!  I am a person who loves objective findings as well as the subjective perceptions.  Emotions can accurately determine my present status and the predictability for success.  I can disclose trends and the need to refocus my attention by listening to my feelings.  I can change my world and have satisfying adventures, knowing I have an inner guidance system, called emotions.

For me, this continues to be a paradigm in the way I look at business and in the way I look at my daily life. I welcome your questions and comments..