The Joy of Attitude Adjustments

The Joy of Attitude Adjustments
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My attitude creates a scope of vision toward everything that is happening in my life.

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I love to frequently remind everyone I meet, that the sum of the placement of letters in the word, attitude, adds up to 100, ( a=1, t=20, t=20, i=9, t=20, u=21, d=4, e=5; that’s 100%)! One hundred percent of your attitude creates 100% of your current situation That may seem like a farfetched idea, but I’ve tested it countless times.

How negative attitudes affect our lives

Negative attitudes narrow and blur our outlook on life and limit our possibilities for solutions.  Negative attitudes seem harmless enough, but 100 % of our views are constricted and match the level of our negativity.    What could be a joyful day turns out to be a series of challenges and stressful surprises.  Our situations mirror our attitudes. We may feel like victims, but we can turn things around easily. When we don’t like our situations, we can always change our attitudes and these new positive attitudes will provide a match with upgraded situations.  It’s fun to see how easily it can be done, and what power we have over our daily lives!

Change your attitude, change your situation.

Try out a variety of positive thoughts that can turn frowns into smiles, stress into ease,  gloom into joy!  Every time you adjust your attitude, you will adjust your ability to affect your situation.

When you stop blaming some outside force for your bad day, you can utilize your attitudes to steer you into bright, new days ahead.

There is not much of a life without joy and quiet enthusiasm.  No one can give you joy but yourself!  So get moving, have a free attitude adjustment on me!  Fun times!

Addendum:  When you continue to believe you don’t have the power to change your situations from bad to a more pleasing situation, your belief IS the attitude that keeps you in your current situation.  Until you change this attitude that you are helpless and doomed to remain in the place you complain about.  From time to time, we all get stuck here.  But we don’t have to stay here.  Improve your attitude and you’ll improve your life!

The Longest Journey

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I’ve heard it said, and I’ve said it myself on numerous occasions: The longest journey you will ever make is from your mind to your heart.  This morning as I had a little pep talk with myself in the mirror, I replaced mind with negative thoughts and replaced heart with a state of happiness:  the longest journey I will ever make is from my negative thoughts to my state of happiness.

This is helpful to me.  This mysterious influence of thoughts have the power to  defeat every attempt in allowing happiness.  Negative thoughts can be like gray clouds that form and make visibility difficult.  Like clouds, these thoughts often go unnoticed until the cold or rain interfere with our lives, our feelings of well-being.

The way we translate the experience of people, places and things, the way we perceive the world around us, is through our five senses.  Thoughts are interpreted through senses, past and present, and are the gatekeepers to our happiness.  Our thoughts act as guards to how we feel at a particular time.  If we want to feel better, we can always consciously change our thoughts by sensing something more pleasant.

For instant, we may be thinking about something at work that is unpleasant.  Perhaps our boss talked to us about how she thought we were not performing as well as we used to.  We are home and feeling bad and don’t feel like doing anything but complain to our dog about how bad our life is.  Once we become aware of our poor feelings, we can choose to experience something new with our senses, quick before we think about it.  Perhaps we go out and water the flowers.  We feel the warm air outside.  We smell the beautiful roses.  We begin digging around the flowerbed and sit down and feel the warm dirt .  We choose to feel better by doing things that make us feel better and our thoughts are focused away from an experience at work.  When the old thought comes back, we gently remind ourselves that we will change what we can change but we have no power over the opinion of our boss.  We will accept the conversation as what it was and realize it is now in the past.  We will do what we can to improve.  But for now, we are going to enjoy this moment with the outdoors.  We are going to choose to do things that make us happy.

Now, as we become more aware of our thoughts and mold them into friendly greeters and facilitators between bliss and our existence in our bodies, the easier we  move about the earth.  This is important to me.

Here are five ways to help mold your thoughts into friendly greeters:

  1. List five activities that consistently bring you into a happy state.  Examples:  taking a nap, listening to music, doing the laundry, rearranging the furniture, taking a walk, going to the beach.
  2. Put this list on a business card for your wallet or print it on a post-it for your bathroom mirror, or on the desktop display.
  3. The moment you realize you feel poorly, congratulate yourself for being alert, and move toward that list
  4. Pick one and do it.  If you do not feel better, cross that item off your list
  5. Revamp your list for better feeling activities.

This journey is the never-ending journey.  We are destined to move forward to better and better ways of feeling, of living in our hearts!

 

Self-Confidence – string of consciousness

4374CEE8-22C0-499A-8DF6-B9F0EA5CA541It is so easy to speak and write about choosing happy thoughts. Then a situation  arises that clashes with my current direction.  A rude remark, an oversighor an interruption leading to a misunderstanding. My state of mind then depends on the level of self-confidence that allows an unwanted situation to be brushed off or solved and forgotten

Just how happy am I?  The answer:  as happy as I can heed my own words and return often to a consciousness of happiness. I understand that happiness is always available but so often I loose my confidence in locating it when my situation presents as an irritant. How do I develop this confidence to withstand these irritant situations?

It is impossible to cultivate the skill of self-confidence without putting it into action. Did I think it was an inherent trait? It may have been at one time.  It may have been, before I allowed others: parents, siblings, friends, teachers, church reps, government reps, news reps, heroes and just about anyone who was not me, dictate the direction I should take at any given moment. When I put my voice second to others.  And when others scolded me for listening to my inner guidance and not theirs

My confidence seemed to rise temporarily when it was in agreement with the thoughts of the person I was with. I struggled in stating my unique perspective. I was seldom in contact with who I was and what my thoughts were. And when my statement came out in a group, it came in the form of an argument.  It was often an offensive stance that was not readily accepted, probably because the tone was not understood. Over the years my skill diminished and refused to serve me in the tamest of gatherings.

But have no fear; it is not a gloomy picture at all.  It is the gold lessons of experience. I like to practice and expand many skills. Confidence nudges me daily to move about with, well, confidence!  And by utilizing this skill I am making many discoveries about this adventure called life, ad communication  There is still much to learn  I will be staying around for a while longer!

Today’s objective is to practice confidence by responding to my thoughts. I am determined to be my best friend today.  Self-confidence is a skill I can use to discover my best self, my best life. I am on to something major!  Thank you for sharing in this day’s journey with me and I hope these words are helpful for you!

I know what I want to do when I grow up!

I woke up at 1:30 again last night.  Four-and-a-half-hours of sleep and I seem to need a break. So here comes a new line of designs, and at 4:00 I’m back to sleep to complete the 3 hours everyone says I need to keep my head on straight.

Last night I tried a little experiment to guide my dreams.  I wanted to take a very, very expensive vacation to a tropical paradise or just the oceanfront.  I never made it.  At least I don’t remember dreaming any such dream.  Isn’t that always the way.  Things just get by us without notice.

Today I’m going to try to watch closely for every opportunity of enjoyment, especially with others who come into my day.  I’m going to have a plush designer pillow of a day!

You know the old saying, keep your day job.  Okay, for now.  But I know what I want to do when I grow up!