Tag: changes
Surrounding ourselves with positivity
Thought 1: The more we surround ourselves with uplifting objects, the more we encourage our choice in positive living. Everyone is unique and celebrates their understanding of positivity differently.
Thought 2: Positive living and thinking allows celebration for every individual. When we allow ourselves to share thoughts, actions, and creativity, we are at peace with ourself and with others.
Thought 3: Everyone is beautiful and talented. We are similar to the beauty of a garden with the many different colors and types of plants. The more the merrier. We are best when we join together and yet, keep our individuality. We all contribute to the beauty of life as individuals. Inclusion of all these differences appears to be the challenge of this century.
What does this have to do with coffee or tea mugs?
Thought 4: A simple mug chosen to drink a beverage can become a celebration of sorts. Objects measure levels of positivity
Thought 4: The ritual of drinking coffee, tea or your favorite morning drink can be emotionally beneficial as you begin your day.
My suggestion is to start with a morning beverage. Use this time to feel good. Maybe catch a conversation with someone in the house, or enjoy a sunrise, or sketch a picture … whatever revs your engine, as my friend Joey says.
I’ve offered you some options for a cool, new cup, with links at the end of this page. Be on the lookout for a cup that tickles your insides. How do you tilt the positivity scale?
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Pre-Order “Getting To Happy”
Getting To Happy — Learn to Read Emotional Messages has a release date! You can pre-order on Amazon and have it downloaded to your kindle devices November 21st! If you are a prime member, you can read it free from the lending library.
I am so pleased to have worked on this project. Now, I’m planning to create an audio book as an enhancement. These are satisfying times!
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What are your feelings telling you?
I’m talking about cautionary feelings today!
I have always considered myself intuitive. Certain feelings made me think I was receiving cautionary messages from someone who had a bigger vision than I. I would not go into a store when this negative feeling came to me. Or I would choose another campsite when this uneasy feeling came over me. I sometimes would get a hunch about someone.
I understood negative feelings to be messages directing me to avoid certain danger. I imagined that I was being protected. I became apt at recognizing these emotions and responding accordingly.
I was vigilant. I watched for negative emotions. I recoiled and ceased to participate until I could feel better. I was proud that I could recognize these messages and save myself from an unknown fear!
I now realize that these interpretations are not only rescuing me from unhappy situations, they are putting me in a cloister safety zone. I can continue using negative emotions as my personal safety net, but my life becomes narrower and narrower.
Participation is one of my biggest desires. Yet my desires were conflicted by refraining to participate. I needed to take a second look at my attitude.
True or False: Negative emotions send messages of fear-and-flight?
Yes and no. The question is, has this understanding of intuition served me? I can only decide this from looking at my life experiences.
Fleeing more and more opportunities because I feel the “fear emotion” has trended toward isolation and a non-social lifestyle. It has permitted me to write, paint, play music, meditate and enjoy nature. but is this the only lifestyle I want? Don’t I love being and sharing with people?
The flee or non-participation approach seemed to work fine for me at one point in my life. Now it doesn’t.
If I felt a negative emotion when I was invited to a party, I would politely give reasons why I could not go. I read articles that confirmed it was a better idea to Just say no! than to force yourself to do something you didn’t want to do. It was confusing. If I was invited to go on an outing and received a negative emotion, I would not go. If I got an idea to call a friend and a negative emotion came up, I would put off the phone call. I actually believed this would help me. I thought to myself, My timing may be off and it is not a good time to call. I was pretty proud of this intuitive gift of safety.
This approach led down a path where I convinced myself I was predestined to have a more quiet life. This is something I would need to accept. As time went on, friends gave up on me, thinking that I wasn’t interested in them or what they did. I had little idea that this approach was leading to the opposite lifestyle that I desired.
And here is wherein the premise is faulty for me. There is more lovely and luscious life to experience! I am tending more toward the belief it is possible to be safe, enter into unknown situations, and interpret your uneasy emotions as Please take a second look! It could hold the kind of adventure you are looking for. I now am moving ahead into new spheres of my life. How this will happen? Life experiences are my only way of knowing.
Life experience tells me that I can participate by changing my point of talking about a situation or thinking about a situation. Life experience tells me that there is always time to stop and listen to the thoughts that feel bad. When I hear the thoughts, I have the opportunity to see through different eyes. In changing my thoughts to a more comfortable, positive attitude about my situation, I change my situation… every time!
So, the way I was thinking of a friend who I wanted to call but didn’t, was triggering an uneasy feeling. I realized I was thinking I might be bothering my friend so I didn’t call. I consciously changed my thoughts to I always am a loving person and my friends feel good when I call . Now it is easier to call. Now I have something to give.
I know that my attitude can change my ability to see what is in front of me. Attitudes are like great, magical glasses. They can change the look of anything! …and instantly! My cautionary feelings are alerts to look at things in a new light. You never know what you will see differently. You never know what can develop within one day when you take second and third looks!
I hope these words are helpful to you and look forward to hearing about your attitude perspectives. Today is a good day to have a good day!
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Speaking of Love
All You Need Is Love
— but how does it serve you?
What if you think of love as an energy force that mirrors whatever it hears from you? What if you think of love as an energy force that is as close to you as you are to yourself?
You use a heart drawing as a symbol of love. I heart you. Everyone recognizes its meaning.
The heart has been beating ever since it became a heart. It continually beats without stopping until the day you leave your body. This symbol of love reminds you that life is constantly working in the background and constantly available to you.
When you do not understand how life works, you can become confused and feel like a leaf whirling about in the wind. Yet the energy of love continues to beat within every situation at hand. Because love is non-physical it has the power to expand and duplicate situations that match your desires. If you run, your heart beats faster. If you go to sleep your heart beats to a slower pace. Love expands all physical situations and is attentive to whatever direction you wish to take. You may think you want to be happy, but your inner conversation complains about this or that. These complaints are heard and activated. Your complaints are what love expands for you. Is this something you have ever thought about?
You may not be aware of this interpretation. I hope it is helpful to you. You may not be aware that love gives you whatever you want! Now that you are aware, be careful about what you ask for in you thoughts and conversations. And, what about complaining? When you complain you send requests that say you want to experience what the complaint looks like.
This sense of expanding seems like something new, You find yourself in a situation you do not like and you become frightened by the situation. You become more and more concerned and the situation seems to get worse. More things happen that make you frightened.
Example One: You find that your coffee machine is broken. It makes you clearly upset because you won’t have your coffee before leaving for work. You begin to feel bad about your whole life. While you get dressed, you remember how unlucky you are that you never have won the lottery. It’s a recurring thought and it seems perfectly normal to have this thought as you get ready for work. You go into your closet and feel you can’t find a thing to wear! You walk out to the car and step in a muddy puddle. You say, Well, that’s just fine! I’m a total failure!. You go in and clean up your shoes, and your internal conversation goes on. You think about how your mother told you how careless you are. You begin to believe her. You stand up, look at the clock on the stove and see you are running 15 minutes late. How did that happen?! Can’t I even keep track of time. No wonder I don’t get promotion! You get in and start the car, and drive to the end of the street. Sure, the traffic light can’t even help me! you yell. It appears that the light is stuck! You wait and wait and wait! …and feel miserable!
Example Two: You find that your coffee machine is broken. You are surprised, but you are trained to STOP and PAUSE. You look out the window and see the beautiful sunshine and watch a bird pecking around in your garden. You look back at the coffee machine and remember it appears broken. You then remember that you have a French Press somewhere in the cupboard. You get some water to boil. You begin to feel that this day is going to be a fun adventure. You remember how much you love French Press coffee, and now have this opportunity. While you wait for the water to boil, you finish dressing and think about how much you love the outfit you’ve put together. You turn on some music, put the water into the French Press, squeeze the grounds and enjoy the aroma of the coffee. Everything good always happens to me! you hear yourself say. You put your coffee into a traveling mug and head for the door. You feel great and enjoy the front yard You see the mud puddle and miss it entirely. You drive with ease and care. You are ready to stop at the traffic light, but it continues to be green. You begin to think about work and how you can make it a better place today! There’s a parking place right in front of your workplace, and you weren’t even looking for one. Life is always great for you!
These examples demonstrate how the energy of love expands and contracts according to your thoughts. Change always matches your inner conversations, your inner attitudes, your fears and your confidence. If you have been following these blogs, you know things are going to continue to expand in a direction that of your thoughts. Your love energy is matching your internal conversation just as it matches the beating of your heart when you are running or sleeping.
You may have been threatened by the expansion and contractions of situations Up to now, you may have become fearful of bad situations and changes in your life.
How can we handle the fear of change?
Previously we have talked about listening to our emotions.
You can first STOP/PAUSE and look away to something more pleasing, then look back at the changed situation with new eyes. Unless there is a true life/death situation, you do not need to react immediately. And, you never need to give into negative impulses.
Ask yourself, how will this situation change with negative attitudes? if I allow negative impulses to direct me, how will I ever get out of this situation? You are in a world where the basis of who you are matches your every thought. When you don’t like something, STOP/PAUSE. Then ACCEPT THE SITUATION. Accept it as a mirror of what you’ve been thinking about lately. Make a note to change your way of complaining or talking or thinking. Start looking at a brighter side of life and brighter situations will naturally follow.
When you begin to experiment with this basic idea, you will see just how futile it is to place blame on others. You are free to suffer and you are free to flourish. Negative thoughts can only produce negative situations. Positive thoughts can only produce positive situations. …. Something to think about today.
