Try to picture what you want. For instance, choose a feeling you want to happen between the two of you. You may imagine this: I’d like to spend a couple of moments together feeling easy with one another, that’s just what I would like. Now, you go into the room where Bob is watching TV and you sit down and read a book. You are not looking for an outcome. You are going to enjoy what you wanted: You want to feel easy. All of the pressure is released and nothing but ease is expected. You can create this!