Getting To Happy

Hi everyone!  I’m looking forward to the completion of a work-in-process:  Getting To Happy.  It should be ready for print in December!  What a wonderful, fun project.  It just keeps getting better.

Here is a partial draft as an introduction.  Enjoy!  And, keep smiling!

My Loyalty To Happiness

This book is written for me, and offered to you! I find myself struggling when I unconsciously observe situations around me. I often observe sickness, aging, repetitive suffering, misunderstanding, inability to relate in ways that inspire and allow happiness. I know happiness exists eternally somewhere deep inside. I want to revisit my natural inclination to live a happier, more satisfying life. I want to develop physical representations that are pleasing to me by elevating my attitude. I invite you to come along with me. If you are serious about living a happy life, this can be the book to visit often.

I have been told repeatedly that all good things must come to an end. Family members have insinuated that you can’t be happy all the time. Even though I find myself sinking beyond my natural state of happiness, I firmly believe it is always present. It is up to me to allow the frequency that matches happiness. Happiness is my natural state of being. It is possible to live happily ever after. It is possible to conduct myself within certain attitudes that match happiness. There is little to be gained for me to resonate with the lower vibrations of negative thinking. Happiness doesn’t live there. You can disagree with me. You may consider the pursuit of happiness an immature way to approach life. We are free beings capable of choosing any number of thoughts and attitudes. These writings will help you recognize the connection between your thoughts and attitudes, the guiding force of emotional energy and your physical and material outcomes.

I leave the world of happiness whenever I block my natural pathway with negative illusionary thoughts such as irritation, frustration, worry, apprehension, anger and despair. The experience can be like finding myself within a pinball game where my thoughts bounce back and forth against bumper synapses. I may find myself a long way from happiness, when I am comparing myself to family and friends. As I become aware of these thoughts, and reign them in, I can immediately enter the world of satisfaction and peace. When I am not focusing on fears and concerns provided me by the world news, I can immediately enter the world of quiet, cooperation and love.

Happy thoughts cause life-changing,  waves of vibration that travel well beyond what I could ever do with actions stemming from duty or guilt. I have taught myself to replace negative words with those that hold positivity. Then any actions will collaborate with joy. Your world will always be what you imagined.

….more to come!

Speaking of Love

All You Need Is Love

— but how does it serve you?

What if you think of love as an energy force that mirrors whatever it hears from you? What if you think of love as an energy force that is as close to you as you are to yourself?

You use a heart drawing as a symbol of love.  I heart you.   Everyone recognizes its meaning.

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The heart has been beating ever since it became a heart.  It continually beats without stopping until the day you leave your body.  This symbol of love reminds you that life is constantly working in the background and constantly available to you.

When you do not understand how life works, you can become confused and feel like a leaf whirling about in the wind.  Yet the energy of love continues to beat within  every situation at hand.  Because love is non-physical it has the power to expand and duplicate situations that match your desires.  If you run, your heart beats faster.  If you go to sleep your heart beats to a slower pace.  Love expands all physical situations and is attentive to whatever direction you wish to take.  You may think you want to be happy, but your inner conversation complains about this or that. These complaints are heard and activated.  Your complaints are what love expands for you.  Is this something you have ever thought about?

You may not be aware of this interpretation. I hope it is helpful to you.  You may not be aware that love gives you whatever you want!  Now that you are aware, be careful about what you ask for in you thoughts and conversations.  And, what about complaining? When you complain you send requests that say you want to experience what the complaint looks like.

This sense of  expanding seems like something new,  You find yourself in a situation you do not like and you become frightened by the situation.  You become more and more concerned and the situation seems to get worse.  More things happen that make you frightened.

Example One:  You find that your coffee machine is broken.  It makes you clearly upset because you won’t have your coffee before leaving for work.  You begin to feel bad about your whole life.  While you get dressed, you remember how unlucky you are that you never have won the lottery.  It’s a recurring thought and it seems perfectly normal to have this thought as you get ready for work. You go into your closet and feel you can’t find a thing to wear!  You walk out to the car and step in a muddy puddle.  You say, Well, that’s just fine!  I’m a total failure!.    You go in and clean up your shoes, and your internal conversation goes on.  You think about how your mother told you how careless you are. You begin to believe her.  You stand up, look at the clock on the stove and see you are running 15 minutes late.  How did that happen?!  Can’t I even keep track of time.  No wonder I don’t get promotion!    You get in and start the car, and drive to the end of the street.  Sure, the traffic light can’t even help me!  you yell.  It appears that the light is stuck!  You wait and wait and wait!   …and feel miserable!

Example Two:  You find that your coffee machine is broken. You are surprised, but you are trained to STOP and PAUSE.  You look out the window and see the beautiful sunshine and watch a bird pecking around in your garden.  You look back at the coffee machine and remember it appears broken.  You then remember that you have a French Press somewhere in the cupboard.  You get some water to boil.  You begin to feel that this day is going to be a fun adventure.  You remember how much you love French Press coffee, and now have this opportunity.  While you wait for the water to boil, you finish dressing and think about how much you love the outfit you’ve put together.  You turn on some music, put the water into the French Press, squeeze the grounds and enjoy the aroma of the coffee.  Everything good always happens to me! you hear yourself say.  You put your coffee into a traveling mug and head for the door.  You feel great and enjoy the front yard  You see the mud puddle and miss it entirely.  You drive with ease and care.  You are ready to stop at the traffic light, but it continues to be green.  You begin to think about work and how you can make it a better place today! There’s a parking place right in front of your workplace, and you weren’t even looking for one.  Life is always great for you!

These examples demonstrate how the energy of love expands and contracts according to your thoughts.   Change always matches your inner conversations, your inner attitudes, your fears and your confidence.  If you have been following these blogs, you know things are going to continue to expand in a direction that of your thoughts.  Your love energy is matching your internal conversation just as it matches the beating of your heart when you are running or sleeping.

You may have been  threatened by the expansion and contractions of situations  Up to now, you may have  become fearful of bad situations and changes in your life.

How can we handle the fear of change?

Previously we have talked about listening to our emotions.

You can first STOP/PAUSE and look away to something more pleasing, then look back at the changed situation with new eyes.  Unless there is a true life/death situation, you do not need to react immediately.  And, you never need to give into negative impulses.

Ask yourself, how will this situation change with negative attitudes?  if I allow negative impulses to direct me, how will I ever get out of this situation?  You are in a world where the basis of who you are matches your every thought.  When you don’t like something, STOP/PAUSE.  Then ACCEPT THE SITUATION.  Accept it as a mirror of what you’ve been thinking about lately.  Make a note to change your way of complaining or talking or thinking.  Start looking at a brighter side of life and brighter situations will naturally follow.

When you begin to experiment with this basic idea, you will see just how futile it is to place blame on others.  You are free to suffer and you are free to flourish.  Negative thoughts can only produce negative situations.  Positive thoughts can only produce positive situations.  ….  Something to think about today.

Bound By Love

The Joy of Attitude Adjustments

The Joy of Attitude Adjustments
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My attitude creates a scope of vision toward everything that is happening in my life.

A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E

I love to frequently remind everyone I meet, that the sum of the placement of letters in the word, attitude, adds up to 100, ( a=1, t=20, t=20, i=9, t=20, u=21, d=4, e=5; that’s 100%)! One hundred percent of your attitude creates 100% of your current situation That may seem like a farfetched idea, but I’ve tested it countless times.

How negative attitudes affect our lives

Negative attitudes narrow and blur our outlook on life and limit our possibilities for solutions.  Negative attitudes seem harmless enough, but 100 % of our views are constricted and match the level of our negativity.    What could be a joyful day turns out to be a series of challenges and stressful surprises.  Our situations mirror our attitudes. We may feel like victims, but we can turn things around easily. When we don’t like our situations, we can always change our attitudes and these new positive attitudes will provide a match with upgraded situations.  It’s fun to see how easily it can be done, and what power we have over our daily lives!

Change your attitude, change your situation.

Try out a variety of positive thoughts that can turn frowns into smiles, stress into ease,  gloom into joy!  Every time you adjust your attitude, you will adjust your ability to affect your situation.

When you stop blaming some outside force for your bad day, you can utilize your attitudes to steer you into bright, new days ahead.

There is not much of a life without joy and quiet enthusiasm.  No one can give you joy but yourself!  So get moving, have a free attitude adjustment on me!  Fun times!

Addendum:  When you continue to believe you don’t have the power to change your situations from bad to a more pleasing situation, your belief IS the attitude that keeps you in your current situation.  Until you change this attitude that you are helpless and doomed to remain in the place you complain about.  From time to time, we all get stuck here.  But we don’t have to stay here.  Improve your attitude and you’ll improve your life!

Emotional Analytics

Emotional Analytics

Understanding Emotions

I have been a long-time student on the subject of emotions .  Emotions can impact and play important roles in my life.  Emotions energize my physical being one way or another.

The stream of emotions can support my focus on things that interest and delight me.  I have long interpreted emotions as messengers or guides to keeping myself united with myself, my best self.  How I feel about any situation, tells me how aligned I am.

I don’t need to control my emotions, except for perhaps, emotional outbursts that affect other’s well-being.   I also don’t need to explain why negative emotions are present.  I don’t need to look to past memories that are causing this unhappy emotion to be triggered within me.  I don’t need to set blame on someone else or some experience.  Blame, regret and guilt didn’t work when I was young, and it is just as futile now. Emotions are not present to scold me.  Emotions are simply guidelines to mark a path to well-being. Emotions are not emotional at all.  They are triggers of energy to tell me that I am getting closer or further away from my total self.

My happiness comes when I am at home with myself.  I know I am more than a physical body, changing daily by building up and tearing down.  I know I have something more significant about me that is non-physical, a part of me but apart from my body.  When I join my body with my non-physical self, I become a who, a real person. I know this because of the relationship I have had with the energy of emotions.

Adjusting Peaks and Valleys

Well-being for me occurs when I am at peace, joyful, laughing, and open. When I am in this state, I am successful in my life and in my business.   It is then I am energized by happiness and clarity.  My focus is uplifted by a current of blissful energy.  As I write these words, I am following my bliss.  I am within the energy flow of bliss.  I am turning my focus toward things that delight me, things that I am interested in and as I feel better, my physical world follows suit.  My physical situations improve without effort.  This has happened time and time again in my personal life and in my business life.  My focus, my attitude, my perception, or whatever you want to call it, becomes my reality in physical form.

Physical Playground

While I am in this body, I can do just about anything I want.  I can listen to others tell me how I should act or how fearful I should be or any number of things.  I can also become aware and accept my emotions, the way I would listen and accept the directives of my GPS lady who tells me I missed a turn. I can utilize my emotions as guideposts, GPS’s, directives, guardian angels or whoever is believed to be a guide.

What I am saying is certainly not new.  But for me it is fresh on a daily basis.  Life and all its experiences are here for me today and in whatever way I wish to see and choose it!  It is pretty incredible when you think about it.

I can move freely around my life, knowing that I have the non-judgmental energy of emotion to tell me how close I am connected to my non-physical source.  When I am in happier moods, I am closer to all of me.  All of me, why not take all of me, can’t you see I’m no good without you.  That song tells me just how much I want to be aligned with all of me, physical and non-physical and more.  The closer I am aligned, the closer I know I am.

Measuring Emotional Insights

Emotions that don’t feel good, emotions like depression, disappointment, anger, fear, worry, boredom, helplessness, anxiety, regret, guilt, apprehension, don’t have to be feared or even focused upon.  I merely need to make an adjustment in my direction.  My focus creates a vibration of thoughts.  Negative emotions are warning lights to focus on something more positive before I self-destruct.

Emotions are like the best form of analytics available to me!  I am a person who loves objective findings as well as the subjective perceptions.  Emotions can accurately determine my present status and the predictability for success.  I can disclose trends and the need to refocus my attention by listening to my feelings.  I can change my world and have satisfying adventures, knowing I have an inner guidance system, called emotions.

For me, this continues to be a paradigm in the way I look at business and in the way I look at my daily life. I welcome your questions and comments..

Every day is a new beginning

Wake up!  Appreciate what makes you feel good!Are you aware of how you approach the precious moments when you wake up?

Let’s make an assessment.

  • Do you check your body to see if you still have that ache in your leg, or a cold?
  • Do you rehash an argument you had the day before with a friend?
  • Do you begin to worry again over your finances?
  • Do you start to plan and then fret over the project that is still unfinished?
  • Do you check the latest news headlines?
  • Can you think of other worrisome thoughts that greet you each day?

These may not be thoughts that are the best for starting your day.  There is little happiness in any of these concerns, wouldn’t you agree?

Each day offers a clean slate into the happy life you seek.  You can seize this opportunity by guiding your thoughts towards what feels good.

You can begin a little ritual upon waking up.  Become aware of how good your body feels wrapped in your cozy blankets.  Enjoy the good feeling of your pillows.  Feel the wonder of just waking up!  Yesterday’s burdens can wait.  This is a time for you to enjoy life. These are the precious moments of the day. Remember, pursuit of happiness?  If not now, when?  Here’s what we can do each day.

Upon waiting up, take advantage of the safety of the moment.  Approach these moments with the good feelings that make you smile inside.  These few moments upon waking are yours.  These moments are your key to a happier day.

On those days when you wake up and find you are still locked into yesterday’s concerns, stop the thoughts by changing your actions.  Get up when you are lost in the same worrisome thoughts. Begin an action that makes you feel better.  Here are some ideas.

  1. Just go back to sleep and reset.
  2. Get up.  Look in the bathroom mirror and give yourself that knowing smile.  –You know, the smile, that remembers how cute or clever or funny or bright or awesome you are.
  3. Listen to a motivational talk on-line as you get ready for the day.  (There are countless tapes available.)
  4. Listen to your favorite upbeat music.
  5. Look out the window and let yourself enjoy nature
  6. Write a list of activities that would be fun right now if you were someone else

Most of all, find actions that feel good. Allow yourself to be happy first, every day upon awaking, no matter what.  Be committed to how you feel.  Appreciate what feels good for a few moments every day before you take on any responsibilities.  Make a habit of this:  Wake up!  Appreciate what makes you feel good!

This simple change in how you begin your day, promises to allow  new opportunities to unfold during the day.  You control the amount of improvement in your life.  Opening up the happiness valve at the on-start of day, supports your plans to achieve during the day:   to complete your project, heal your illness, complete your project with more ease, to make the world a better place.

Wake up!  Appreciate what makes you feel good! That’s good advice because it works!  If you know someone who is struggling through their days, please share this article with them and we’ll both make a happier world.

 

Accepting the situation in front of you, changes everything!

There are many opportunities to change unhappy situations around us.  I guess we just don’t know that we have that power!

Somehow we have come to believe that the only way to change a situation is to fight against it.  It appears that when bad things happen, we spend the majority of time talking about it and shaking our heads in confusion.  We talk and read about things we don’t like and we are confused how these things continue to escalate.

This happens with world current events and it happens in our world.  Situations present themselves to us; we may not be aware that it is our response to the situation that holds more of the same or changes everything.

I am speaking about situations that are within your present moment awareness.  If you think about it, there are millions, no billions, no an infinite amount of situations taking place at any moment.  You are aware of only one of these situations at a time.

Interesting perception! Only the situations that are within your awareness are the situations you believe as true.  But to another person, even a person in the same room, this very situation that holds all of your attention may not even exist in their world.

So what is it about situations that have the power to enthrall us or crumble our confidence?  What really are situations?  What part of a situation is an illusion? How can situations change in time? Where are we, anyway?

More interesting questions! Here are my answers for now.  We may be amazing beings who are able to create situational moments that are so detailed they can fool even ourselves.  We create these situations to objectify our thoughts.  We can expand as we see what we want and what we don’t want, and even what we want to explore further.

This type of perspective can be very helpful in changing situations that are unpleasant to us.  We now have a way to move on to the next lesson when we accept the situation in front of us.  We don’t have to respond to it or necessarily suffer from it.  The suffering may be coming from an illusion we desire to experience.  Why would you want to suffer, you ask?

I do not know.  I do know, however, that if I don’t want to suffer, and I believe I do not need to suffer, I will begin to live a completely different life.  It may seem like a miracle.  It may seem like a brand new door appears from nowhere, and opens up a new reality.  It has the power to surprise and delight me.

By accepting the situation in front of you, by keeping your heart open with optimism and love, great things can emerge.  Think about it.  You have  probably already experienced moments of exhilaration at one time or another.  Can you remember a lovely situation that completely embraced you?  You may have sustained the experienced the happy situation for hours, even days.  Then, you become a little uneasy and questioned whether this kind of well-being was a bit naive  You may have closed the door and entered another irritating situation that felt more familiar.   But it was miserable.  Hopefully, this article will open more doors to happy situations.  The first step is to allow or accept the door as it presents itself.  There is paradise on earth.  It is up to us to find and allow it through trial and error.

The sooner you realize your inner power to create your reality, the sooner you will be able to break the cycle of pain and suffering.  I welcome your thoughts on this topic.  Life can be just as amazing as us!  It is up to us!

Peace!  My upcoming blog hopefully can give some practical ways to change your situations through acceptance.  I look forward to seeing what will come out of these fingers!  Thank you for reading.