Tag: self-improvement

Power of Attraction, Uncategorized

Emotional Analytics

Emotional Analytics

Understanding Emotions

I have been a long-time student on the subject of emotions .  Emotions can impact and play important roles in my life.  Emotions energize my physical being one way or another.

The stream of emotions can support my focus on things that interest and delight me.  I have long interpreted emotions as messengers or guides to keeping myself united with myself, my best self.  How I feel about any situation, tells me how aligned I am.

I don’t need to control my emotions, except for perhaps, emotional outbursts that affect other’s well-being.   I also don’t need to explain why negative emotions are present.  I don’t need to look to past memories that are causing this unhappy emotion to be triggered within me.  I don’t need to set blame on someone else or some experience.  Blame, regret and guilt didn’t work when I was young, and it is just as futile now. Emotions are not present to scold me.  Emotions are simply guidelines to mark a path to well-being. Emotions are not emotional at all.  They are triggers of energy to tell me that I am getting closer or further away from my total self.

My happiness comes when I am at home with myself.  I know I am more than a physical body, changing daily by building up and tearing down.  I know I have something more significant about me that is non-physical, a part of me but apart from my body.  When I join my body with my non-physical self, I become a who, a real person. I know this because of the relationship I have had with the energy of emotions.

Adjusting Peaks and Valleys

Well-being for me occurs when I am at peace, joyful, laughing, and open. When I am in this state, I am successful in my life and in my business.   It is then I am energized by happiness and clarity.  My focus is uplifted by a current of blissful energy.  As I write these words, I am following my bliss.  I am within the energy flow of bliss.  I am turning my focus toward things that delight me, things that I am interested in and as I feel better, my physical world follows suit.  My physical situations improve without effort.  This has happened time and time again in my personal life and in my business life.  My focus, my attitude, my perception, or whatever you want to call it, becomes my reality in physical form.

Physical Playground

While I am in this body, I can do just about anything I want.  I can listen to others tell me how I should act or how fearful I should be or any number of things.  I can also become aware and accept my emotions, the way I would listen and accept the directives of my GPS lady who tells me I missed a turn. I can utilize my emotions as guideposts, GPS’s, directives, guardian angels or whoever is believed to be a guide.

What I am saying is certainly not new.  But for me it is fresh on a daily basis.  Life and all its experiences are here for me today and in whatever way I wish to see and choose it!  It is pretty incredible when you think about it.

I can move freely around my life, knowing that I have the non-judgmental energy of emotion to tell me how close I am connected to my non-physical source.  When I am in happier moods, I am closer to all of me.  All of me, why not take all of me, can’t you see I’m no good without you.  That song tells me just how much I want to be aligned with all of me, physical and non-physical and more.  The closer I am aligned, the closer I know I am.

Measuring Emotional Insights

Emotions that don’t feel good, emotions like depression, disappointment, anger, fear, worry, boredom, helplessness, anxiety, regret, guilt, apprehension, don’t have to be feared or even focused upon.  I merely need to make an adjustment in my direction.  My focus creates a vibration of thoughts.  Negative emotions are warning lights to focus on something more positive before I self-destruct.

Emotions are like the best form of analytics available to me!  I am a person who loves objective findings as well as the subjective perceptions.  Emotions can accurately determine my present status and the predictability for success.  I can disclose trends and the need to refocus my attention by listening to my feelings.  I can change my world and have satisfying adventures, knowing I have an inner guidance system, called emotions.

For me, this continues to be a paradigm in the way I look at business and in the way I look at my daily life. I welcome your questions and comments..

Communication, Uncategorized

Self-Confidence – string of consciousness

4374CEE8-22C0-499A-8DF6-B9F0EA5CA541It is so easy to speak and write about choosing happy thoughts. Then a situation  arises that clashes with my current direction.  A rude remark, an oversighor an interruption leading to a misunderstanding. My state of mind then depends on the level of self-confidence that allows an unwanted situation to be brushed off or solved and forgotten

Just how happy am I?  The answer:  as happy as I can heed my own words and return often to a consciousness of happiness. I understand that happiness is always available but so often I loose my confidence in locating it when my situation presents as an irritant. How do I develop this confidence to withstand these irritant situations?

It is impossible to cultivate the skill of self-confidence without putting it into action. Did I think it was an inherent trait? It may have been at one time.  It may have been, before I allowed others: parents, siblings, friends, teachers, church reps, government reps, news reps, heroes and just about anyone who was not me, dictate the direction I should take at any given moment. When I put my voice second to others.  And when others scolded me for listening to my inner guidance and not theirs

My confidence seemed to rise temporarily when it was in agreement with the thoughts of the person I was with. I struggled in stating my unique perspective. I was seldom in contact with who I was and what my thoughts were. And when my statement came out in a group, it came in the form of an argument.  It was often an offensive stance that was not readily accepted, probably because the tone was not understood. Over the years my skill diminished and refused to serve me in the tamest of gatherings.

But have no fear; it is not a gloomy picture at all.  It is the gold lessons of experience. I like to practice and expand many skills. Confidence nudges me daily to move about with, well, confidence!  And by utilizing this skill I am making many discoveries about this adventure called life, ad communication  There is still much to learn  I will be staying around for a while longer!

Today’s objective is to practice confidence by responding to my thoughts. I am determined to be my best friend today.  Self-confidence is a skill I can use to discover my best self, my best life. I am on to something major!  Thank you for sharing in this day’s journey with me and I hope these words are helpful for you!

Non-Fiction, Self-Imrovement

September 1, 2014 – Some thoughts

 Even when you are having fun,

life slips by.

Even when you sulk around,

life slips by.

Even when you fall in love,

life slips by.

Even when you are sick and frail,

life slips by.

There’s no way to stop the time

you have in this one body.

You might as well hug yourself

and live in wondrous ways.

There’s no way to stop the time

you have in this one body.

So accept it well and live

today with all the secrets,

adventures, and

gifts to you alone.

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Non-Fiction, Self-Imrovement

Five Ways to Combat Worry

WorryWe are at war.  Everyday.  We are not even aware. We wake up and try to smile at the day ahead.  Almost immediately our dutiful brains remind us of challenges, old debates and grudges we continue to hold.  Tapes begin to play in our heads. We are not even aware of them.  We dress to disguise any trace of unrest, and get on with the day.

This worry, no matter how short-lived within our days, takes it toll on our bodies: our muscles, bones and organs; our blood pressure, blood sugar and ability to fight off infection. Often we engage in worrisome thoughts, emerging from one worry to another.  We think this is life.  We think we are destined to be concerned.  This is the adult thing to do.  But worry is a state that keeps us from our true happy selves.  Worry is a state that damages our body.  Worry is the war we need to win.  Here are five ways to replace worry with confidence, smiles and general, overall happiness.

  1. Look in the mirror every hour.

You can use a mirror or your iPhone/iPad/computer camera. Look carefully.  Each time you use the restroom, look, really look at your facial expression as you pass the mirror.  It may surprise you!  Where’s your smile?  Where’s your ease?  Where’s the person you think you are?  The answer is, probably lost in some concern or worry.  Easy enough fix!  As soon as you recognize the worry, let it go and turn it into a smile.

Hi there! you say to yourself as if to a best friend.  How’s it going!  I sure love you!.  Now that will get you smiling because you will feel foolish at first, but it will work.  The more you become friends with yourself, the stronger, more confident you will become.

Put your timer on and do a spot check every hour for the first week or two.  See if things won’t turn around almost immediately.

2.  When you catch yourself worrying, give it a category.

It is thought that there are three ways to handle worry.  One: see if you can change the situation.  Two: see if you can set yourself apart from the situation.  And, three: accept the situation and go on.

Once you hear yourself lost in a concern (and you may see yourself faster than hearing yourself, so use the mirror every hour), decide how you will proceed.  Stop the tapes immediately.  For example.  You see a worried person in the mirror and ask what is going on.  You’re thinking about a water bill that just came in the mail.  You decide to categorize the worry.  You choose to change the situation by going to your checkbook or computer and paying the water bill.  You have freed yourself from worry.

But what if you do not have funds for the water bill?  Then you will need to dig a bit deeper and see what situation is causing this.  Once you identify the situation, (perhaps you spent all your money on a party last week), then you need to change your way of living in the future to make room for your expenses.  You can forgive yourself for being human, call the water company and ask for an extension and then pay the bill.  If your situation is more complicated with lots of months or years of making decisions that cause you worry, then you will need to take one worry at a time and sort them into categories and act on each worry, one by one, until you find peace.

3.  Do something out of character.

When you live within the same situations every day, it is hard to find solutions for your worries.  Give yourself a new character when you find yourself worrying.  Put on a crazy hat or shirt. Put your plates where your drinking glasses are, and your glasses where your plates were.  Change things around and get your brain occupied with something other than chewing and re-chewing your current worry.  This is especially important when you have chosen to accept the situation or person who is causing you worry.  Put on some music and even listen to a type of music that you seldom hear.  Let the light in!  If you don’t wear shoes in the house, wear shoes.  If you don’t dress up in your house, dress up.  Do anything out of character and you’ll see an improvement.  The part of your brain previously sending feelings of worry, will stop sending the worries and pause long enough to listen for a different directive..  This is enough time \ sort out your worries in a happier state.  Quickly solve your concern and move on. Life will all of a sudden become fun.

4. Let nature calm you:  take a walk, stroll, or drive

Nature is a free gift that is everywhere.  Nature waits to calm you!  It’s just outside your door.  Sit with a flower, bush or tree.  If you are quiet enough, nature will speak to your heart and in no time at all you will be feeling great.  If you want to tell nature all about your concerns, go ahead.  In moments you’ll be putting them into the categories and feel 100% better.

Walking is good for your body and good for relieving stress caused by worry.  A walk a day can keep the doctor away!

5.  Forgive yourself and others daily

Once you start thinking about the process of forgiveness, you can take advantage of the extraordinary opportunity it provides.  Letting go of resentment is a powerful tool toward letting go of worry.  Resentment imprisons us. Worry provides us with feelings of resentment.  It compares our lives to others and resents that we do not have the surplus of funds that seems so available to our friends.  Resentment goes on and on.  It provides us with a zillion reason this is so unfair.  We are lost and victimized through resentment and the worries continue.

Forgiveness is an often misunderstood and therefore under-utilized.  Lose the resentment of others when you perceive you are being threatened or disrespected.  Lose the resentment of perceived situations resembling hard times.  Lose the resentment of self when you do not measure up to what you perceive you should be.  Forgive, forgive, forgive.  Be generous in your for-giving!

When you are doing your hourly mirror checks, take a moment to forgive whatever is going on in the moment.  Forgive yourself, others and situations and you will become stronger, able to achieve more and happier.

Practice these five methods to decrease worry in your life.  I hope they help you and I hope they help to make a better, happier world.  I welcome your comments.

Love,

Barbara

books, Non-Fiction, Self-Imrovement

A Gift For Those Who Are Grieving

This audio/video book sample calms me down even though I produced it. As I listen I experience the peace that is within all of us.  I hope you will share it with your friends and neighbors, especially those who are a little down at the moment.

The audio sample reading is taken from “Aunt Barbara’s Powerful Little Book of Comfort.  I hope it will soothe the pain many may feel on this day.  Hopefully it will guide anyone who has lost their sense of happiness back to peace.  It is a 20-minute reading hosted on YouTube.com.

For those who need assistance, CLICK HERE.

books, Non-Fiction, Self-Imrovement, Uncategorized

Politicians Are Using Powerful Pollutants

Even a child now understands that to be president you need enough money to publically slander your opposing candidate in order to win the election.  Here are my observations:

  1. The United States has a great, 3-way, check-and-balance system.  It works when each appreciate and respect the purpose of the other.
  2. Children who bully and lie about their classmates in the same manner that we witness nightly between candidates are disciplined. Yet our children are watching these demonstrations nightly on TV.
  3. Those of us who are smart enough to refrain from watching only commercial-free TV and no news during this year of presidential election will be safe from political pollutants.  Thoughts and words that cover our natural ability for happiness are recognized and carefully discarded.
  4. Our Declaration of Independence assures us the right to pursue happiness. How are we to achieve a government in pursuit of happiness when we are caught up in gossip.  It was interesting to see that candidates put a moratorium on negative campaigning during the Christmas season. Is the message here saying that negative campaigning is a necessary evil; at whose expense?  Should not our government prohibit unhappy, disrespectful, and angry political campaigns and potential leaders?
  5. When we tolerate the irritation of nightly commercials that all but yell at us about the evils and weaknesses of the other, we, ourselves, are worn down.  We ask ourselves: Are these our intended leaders?  How will we be inspired by them once they are elected?  How will they create an environment that will allow us to pursue happiness?
  6. People actually take on one ugly side or the other, and retell the angry stories they have heard on talk-shows, news, or advertisements.  Emails and blogs are written to persuade others to see how the “other” candidate is a creep and their candidate is the only one who can make things better.

Even writing about politics makes me leave my happy zone and enter the craziness.  So, I’m going to breathe and remember a few things.

  1. Respect is an attitude that always gives me happiness.  Respect begins with respecting myself.
  2. Anytime I hear angry and bullying lies, I must breath and speak freely that there is no love or happiness within negative intentions and only negative outcomes can come from negative words. When I refuse to feed the fire, the fire dies.  When I refuse to give energy to arguments, the arguments die.
  3. TV is not the only recreation in this world.  No matter what we may think, we are not more intelligent because we watch the news.  It is possible to watch commercial-free TV via a computer. There is a way to tape programs so that you can bypass all commercials and as long as commercials contain negative, hard-sell and degrading emotions, the advertising market will “feel” the impact.
  4. We do have a right to be who we are: happy, loving beings.  We are!  We do not need to be afraid of anything or anyone!  We have all we need!  We do not need to beware of any government or government official.  They are of the same substance as us.  There is nothing to war about, my friends.
  5. Effective leaders are mirrors of our best self, our true self.  Effective leaders radiate our happy, loving us.
  6. I was first taught the art of debating in fifth grade.  It was taught as a method to help students grow intellectually.  Respect for your opponent was key.  It was understood that all sides would have valid points.  Debates were a way for students to flush out all the facets of a particular subject for the good of the class.  The class would then have a better understanding of the subject and decide their course of action based on the fine presentation of the debators.  It was considered ineffectual and lazy debating for students to rely on disparaging remarks about the other side.  The debater who won was the one who was most clever about producing a clear statement and roadmap for its achievement.  It held humor that was humorous never remarks that were hurtful to the other.  Well, that is my memory of a long-passed art.

I have a favorite cup that has my painting called, Community by Another Angle.  I am happy to hold it and so happy to be living this Saturday with my husband and my dog.  I have happy thoughts of my son and his family visiting the beach.  I am going to clean up our house a bit and I am going to write more on my next book.  I am close to who I am.  That is the challenge of life.  As I keep saying, “All You Need Is Love.”