Getting To Happy

Hi everyone!  I’m looking forward to the completion of a work-in-process:  Getting To Happy.  It should be ready for print in December!  What a wonderful, fun project.  It just keeps getting better.

Here is a partial draft as an introduction.  Enjoy!  And, keep smiling!

My Loyalty To Happiness

This book is written for me, and offered to you! I find myself struggling when I unconsciously observe situations around me. I often observe sickness, aging, repetitive suffering, misunderstanding, inability to relate in ways that inspire and allow happiness. I know happiness exists eternally somewhere deep inside. I want to revisit my natural inclination to live a happier, more satisfying life. I want to develop physical representations that are pleasing to me by elevating my attitude. I invite you to come along with me. If you are serious about living a happy life, this can be the book to visit often.

I have been told repeatedly that all good things must come to an end. Family members have insinuated that you can’t be happy all the time. Even though I find myself sinking beyond my natural state of happiness, I firmly believe it is always present. It is up to me to allow the frequency that matches happiness. Happiness is my natural state of being. It is possible to live happily ever after. It is possible to conduct myself within certain attitudes that match happiness. There is little to be gained for me to resonate with the lower vibrations of negative thinking. Happiness doesn’t live there. You can disagree with me. You may consider the pursuit of happiness an immature way to approach life. We are free beings capable of choosing any number of thoughts and attitudes. These writings will help you recognize the connection between your thoughts and attitudes, the guiding force of emotional energy and your physical and material outcomes.

I leave the world of happiness whenever I block my natural pathway with negative illusionary thoughts such as irritation, frustration, worry, apprehension, anger and despair. The experience can be like finding myself within a pinball game where my thoughts bounce back and forth against bumper synapses. I may find myself a long way from happiness, when I am comparing myself to family and friends. As I become aware of these thoughts, and reign them in, I can immediately enter the world of satisfaction and peace. When I am not focusing on fears and concerns provided me by the world news, I can immediately enter the world of quiet, cooperation and love.

Happy thoughts cause life-changing,  waves of vibration that travel well beyond what I could ever do with actions stemming from duty or guilt. I have taught myself to replace negative words with those that hold positivity. Then any actions will collaborate with joy. Your world will always be what you imagined.

….more to come!

Speaking of Love

All You Need Is Love

— but how does it serve you?

What if you think of love as an energy force that mirrors whatever it hears from you? What if you think of love as an energy force that is as close to you as you are to yourself?

You use a heart drawing as a symbol of love.  I heart you.   Everyone recognizes its meaning.

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The heart has been beating ever since it became a heart.  It continually beats without stopping until the day you leave your body.  This symbol of love reminds you that life is constantly working in the background and constantly available to you.

When you do not understand how life works, you can become confused and feel like a leaf whirling about in the wind.  Yet the energy of love continues to beat within  every situation at hand.  Because love is non-physical it has the power to expand and duplicate situations that match your desires.  If you run, your heart beats faster.  If you go to sleep your heart beats to a slower pace.  Love expands all physical situations and is attentive to whatever direction you wish to take.  You may think you want to be happy, but your inner conversation complains about this or that. These complaints are heard and activated.  Your complaints are what love expands for you.  Is this something you have ever thought about?

You may not be aware of this interpretation. I hope it is helpful to you.  You may not be aware that love gives you whatever you want!  Now that you are aware, be careful about what you ask for in you thoughts and conversations.  And, what about complaining? When you complain you send requests that say you want to experience what the complaint looks like.

This sense of  expanding seems like something new,  You find yourself in a situation you do not like and you become frightened by the situation.  You become more and more concerned and the situation seems to get worse.  More things happen that make you frightened.

Example One:  You find that your coffee machine is broken.  It makes you clearly upset because you won’t have your coffee before leaving for work.  You begin to feel bad about your whole life.  While you get dressed, you remember how unlucky you are that you never have won the lottery.  It’s a recurring thought and it seems perfectly normal to have this thought as you get ready for work. You go into your closet and feel you can’t find a thing to wear!  You walk out to the car and step in a muddy puddle.  You say, Well, that’s just fine!  I’m a total failure!.    You go in and clean up your shoes, and your internal conversation goes on.  You think about how your mother told you how careless you are. You begin to believe her.  You stand up, look at the clock on the stove and see you are running 15 minutes late.  How did that happen?!  Can’t I even keep track of time.  No wonder I don’t get promotion!    You get in and start the car, and drive to the end of the street.  Sure, the traffic light can’t even help me!  you yell.  It appears that the light is stuck!  You wait and wait and wait!   …and feel miserable!

Example Two:  You find that your coffee machine is broken. You are surprised, but you are trained to STOP and PAUSE.  You look out the window and see the beautiful sunshine and watch a bird pecking around in your garden.  You look back at the coffee machine and remember it appears broken.  You then remember that you have a French Press somewhere in the cupboard.  You get some water to boil.  You begin to feel that this day is going to be a fun adventure.  You remember how much you love French Press coffee, and now have this opportunity.  While you wait for the water to boil, you finish dressing and think about how much you love the outfit you’ve put together.  You turn on some music, put the water into the French Press, squeeze the grounds and enjoy the aroma of the coffee.  Everything good always happens to me! you hear yourself say.  You put your coffee into a traveling mug and head for the door.  You feel great and enjoy the front yard  You see the mud puddle and miss it entirely.  You drive with ease and care.  You are ready to stop at the traffic light, but it continues to be green.  You begin to think about work and how you can make it a better place today! There’s a parking place right in front of your workplace, and you weren’t even looking for one.  Life is always great for you!

These examples demonstrate how the energy of love expands and contracts according to your thoughts.   Change always matches your inner conversations, your inner attitudes, your fears and your confidence.  If you have been following these blogs, you know things are going to continue to expand in a direction that of your thoughts.  Your love energy is matching your internal conversation just as it matches the beating of your heart when you are running or sleeping.

You may have been  threatened by the expansion and contractions of situations  Up to now, you may have  become fearful of bad situations and changes in your life.

How can we handle the fear of change?

Previously we have talked about listening to our emotions.

You can first STOP/PAUSE and look away to something more pleasing, then look back at the changed situation with new eyes.  Unless there is a true life/death situation, you do not need to react immediately.  And, you never need to give into negative impulses.

Ask yourself, how will this situation change with negative attitudes?  if I allow negative impulses to direct me, how will I ever get out of this situation?  You are in a world where the basis of who you are matches your every thought.  When you don’t like something, STOP/PAUSE.  Then ACCEPT THE SITUATION.  Accept it as a mirror of what you’ve been thinking about lately.  Make a note to change your way of complaining or talking or thinking.  Start looking at a brighter side of life and brighter situations will naturally follow.

When you begin to experiment with this basic idea, you will see just how futile it is to place blame on others.  You are free to suffer and you are free to flourish.  Negative thoughts can only produce negative situations.  Positive thoughts can only produce positive situations.  ….  Something to think about today.

Bound By Love

The Joy of Attitude Adjustments

The Joy of Attitude Adjustments
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My attitude creates a scope of vision toward everything that is happening in my life.

A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E

I love to frequently remind everyone I meet, that the sum of the placement of letters in the word, attitude, adds up to 100, ( a=1, t=20, t=20, i=9, t=20, u=21, d=4, e=5; that’s 100%)! One hundred percent of your attitude creates 100% of your current situation That may seem like a farfetched idea, but I’ve tested it countless times.

How negative attitudes affect our lives

Negative attitudes narrow and blur our outlook on life and limit our possibilities for solutions.  Negative attitudes seem harmless enough, but 100 % of our views are constricted and match the level of our negativity.    What could be a joyful day turns out to be a series of challenges and stressful surprises.  Our situations mirror our attitudes. We may feel like victims, but we can turn things around easily. When we don’t like our situations, we can always change our attitudes and these new positive attitudes will provide a match with upgraded situations.  It’s fun to see how easily it can be done, and what power we have over our daily lives!

Change your attitude, change your situation.

Try out a variety of positive thoughts that can turn frowns into smiles, stress into ease,  gloom into joy!  Every time you adjust your attitude, you will adjust your ability to affect your situation.

When you stop blaming some outside force for your bad day, you can utilize your attitudes to steer you into bright, new days ahead.

There is not much of a life without joy and quiet enthusiasm.  No one can give you joy but yourself!  So get moving, have a free attitude adjustment on me!  Fun times!

Addendum:  When you continue to believe you don’t have the power to change your situations from bad to a more pleasing situation, your belief IS the attitude that keeps you in your current situation.  Until you change this attitude that you are helpless and doomed to remain in the place you complain about.  From time to time, we all get stuck here.  But we don’t have to stay here.  Improve your attitude and you’ll improve your life!

Every day is a new beginning

Wake up!  Appreciate what makes you feel good!Are you aware of how you approach the precious moments when you wake up?

Let’s make an assessment.

  • Do you check your body to see if you still have that ache in your leg, or a cold?
  • Do you rehash an argument you had the day before with a friend?
  • Do you begin to worry again over your finances?
  • Do you start to plan and then fret over the project that is still unfinished?
  • Do you check the latest news headlines?
  • Can you think of other worrisome thoughts that greet you each day?

These may not be thoughts that are the best for starting your day.  There is little happiness in any of these concerns, wouldn’t you agree?

Each day offers a clean slate into the happy life you seek.  You can seize this opportunity by guiding your thoughts towards what feels good.

You can begin a little ritual upon waking up.  Become aware of how good your body feels wrapped in your cozy blankets.  Enjoy the good feeling of your pillows.  Feel the wonder of just waking up!  Yesterday’s burdens can wait.  This is a time for you to enjoy life. These are the precious moments of the day. Remember, pursuit of happiness?  If not now, when?  Here’s what we can do each day.

Upon waiting up, take advantage of the safety of the moment.  Approach these moments with the good feelings that make you smile inside.  These few moments upon waking are yours.  These moments are your key to a happier day.

On those days when you wake up and find you are still locked into yesterday’s concerns, stop the thoughts by changing your actions.  Get up when you are lost in the same worrisome thoughts. Begin an action that makes you feel better.  Here are some ideas.

  1. Just go back to sleep and reset.
  2. Get up.  Look in the bathroom mirror and give yourself that knowing smile.  –You know, the smile, that remembers how cute or clever or funny or bright or awesome you are.
  3. Listen to a motivational talk on-line as you get ready for the day.  (There are countless tapes available.)
  4. Listen to your favorite upbeat music.
  5. Look out the window and let yourself enjoy nature
  6. Write a list of activities that would be fun right now if you were someone else

Most of all, find actions that feel good. Allow yourself to be happy first, every day upon awaking, no matter what.  Be committed to how you feel.  Appreciate what feels good for a few moments every day before you take on any responsibilities.  Make a habit of this:  Wake up!  Appreciate what makes you feel good!

This simple change in how you begin your day, promises to allow  new opportunities to unfold during the day.  You control the amount of improvement in your life.  Opening up the happiness valve at the on-start of day, supports your plans to achieve during the day:   to complete your project, heal your illness, complete your project with more ease, to make the world a better place.

Wake up!  Appreciate what makes you feel good! That’s good advice because it works!  If you know someone who is struggling through their days, please share this article with them and we’ll both make a happier world.

 

Improving Your Thought Process

Quiet Acceptance

Can we really train our thought process?

Since writing Creating Thoughts That Serve You!, I have been more aware of the thoughts that are going through my head.  At first it was a little shocking .  I consider myself to be one of the most positive people in the world.  Yet here I was, thinking thoughts of how people don’t want to be around me.  Pretty silly huh?

Not really.  The untended mind’s thoughts are free to roam around to any subject or replay any past experience  unless I reign them in.  I could think of thoughts as horses.  Wild horses.  Brilliant and beautiful wild horses.

I can make friends with a horse and gently train her to serve me.  I can eventually guide her toward an adventure along the mountain  narrow paths of Yosemite.  In this way the horse serves me.  Similarly, thoughts can be gently trained each day to serve.  Who knows where that might lead to.  Who knows where my thoughts might take me?

Three Steps to guide the thought process?

  1. Journalling with abandon! Writing allows thoughts to flow from my hands.  It is an amazing mystery.  A thought with no physicality becomes physical as it appears on an empty screen or paper.  Even more mysterious is how thoughts can turn into events.  An important book, Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron, recommends writing three pages a day.  It is suggested that these pages are written with free abandon. In the three pages,  am not trying to impress anyone or anything.  As I write and let my thoughts trust me enough to flow, I build a relationship with my mind.  And, something else happens.  I begin to realize that there is another “someone” observing these thoughts.  I begin to realize that there is a bigger me than the wild untamed me.  I begin to see a me (the sane one) and a me that is my ego (the crazy one, or I would like to say, the lesser of the sane ones).  Writing 3 pages a day is a wonderful exercise and almost a meditation in the mystery always evolving within.
  2. Blogging with consistency! It is so easy to give up writing, especially when you think no one is paying attention.  Yet, blogging can be a personal growth process.  When I write this blog, I can only imagine who will be reading my thoughts.  You are reading, but I don’t know much about you.  I can’t tailor my thoughts to what I perceive you want to hear.  I do know you are human and so with a new sort of abandon. I offer you my heart.  There is something else  I wish to communicate from my best self, so I work a bit harder in writing to you and edit what I write.  In this attempt, I am more aware of my thoughts and the progress I am making in guiding them to serve me … and others.
  3. Taking a good look in the mirror!  I pass a mirror so many times a day without using it’s power.Thoughts that do not serve me, easily appear:  Am I fat?  Do I look old?  Wish my legs weren’t so bowl-legged!  I don’t look so bad.  Yeah, I look pretty good! These are the wild thoughts that are freely roaming about, making me feel good or bad about myself without my consent.  These are the thoughts that may not serve me.  With a little bit of consciousness, I can use a mirror to meet up with the sane one .  I can look right into my eyes and have a moment of great humor, spark, joy, confidence.  I can also gently guide my mind to understand that these are the types of thoughts I prefer.  I can become aware of thoughts during the day and gently guide my mind back to harmony within me!

Today is my 72nd Birthday. So much fun!   I look forward to an eternity of expanding thoughts into wonderful creations.  Thank you for sharing part of my day.  Hope these comments are as helpful to you as they are for me!

 

 

The Happy Dance: Thoughts About Achieving Happiness

Bright Idea

I like to be happy.  I like the feeling of well-being.  I love to wake up in the morning with thoughts of quiet enthusiasm.  I love to be happy.

But setting out to achieve happiness creates the opposite effect!  Really.  It is impossible to experience happiness by pursuing happiness.  it can’t be done.  The more happiness is pursued, the more it is elusive.  Happiness cannot be objectified.

Think of happiness as your heartbeat.  You probably have nothing to do with the beating of your heart right now, yet you are experiencing the fine effects of its presence.  Think of happiness as your lungs, breathing air in and out.  You probably have not even thought about the fact that as you read these words, you have been breathing in and out and sending what we call oxygen to all parts of your body.  You may try to keep outside influences away from preventing a good heartbeat and air supply, but, when you think about it, you are the heart and the lungs.  You do not need to pursue the heartbeat or the breathing.  You came this way.

Happiness is similar.  You came to earth with happy.  Whenever you are not bothered by worry, concern, duty, internal argument, and pessimistic acceptance of doom, you naturally rise back to the vibrations of happy.  Happy is your natural, hard-wired state.

Just like removing smoke from your lungs, or muscle stress from your heart, deciding that you do not choose to hold concerns, duties, arguments, frustrations, fears will allow your natural ability to experience well-being, happiness is continually possible — automatically.

There are levels of happiness.  Happiness is eternal.  It develops to unimaginable delights the more it is experienced.  Happiness dances vibrations that can only be experienced to be appreciated.  You cannot talk or really write about happiness to achieve happiness.  You can only stop thinking about old ways of approaching life that get in the way of happiness.  When you stop and clear out old ways of thinking, you permit happiness to penetrate you and your life, and the lives of those around you.  

Stop thinking about happiness.  Start eliminating worry about whether you have enough money, or enough friends, or enough anything.  Eliminating duty and enjoy everything you have.  Stop trying to get more and enjoy what you have.  Stop trying to get well and enjoy the health you have.  Stop trying to find the love of your life and enjoy yourself and those around you.  Stop trying to be the best Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Teacher, Boss, Worker, Driver, Dancer, Actor, Trainer, …. stop it…..Enjoy who you are!  That is where happiness lives.

Stop worrying about your city, your schools, your government, your leaders.  I know it sounds like that is very poor advice.  But stop giving attention to all the things that are wrong with your world and give attention to what is RIGHT with your world.  That is the only way you can let the good things in.  

It is you who is stopping your own happiness.  You cannot keep blaming others.  You cannot keep wishing for better times, while feeling like you are continually stopped by some outside force.  Nothing can stop the one who is within you.  You are your center of happiness.  You are your power for good.  There is no other.

So stop thinking about achieving anything and live.  Trust yourself.  Make way for yourself, your truest self, your happy self.  Make way by eliminating every worry, every concern, every frustration.  Refuse to give your attention to negative thinking.  The most powerful tool you have in achieving anything you desire:  happy family, happy job, happy finances, happy surrounding, is to be appreciative of what is right in front of you.  This simple tool will open opportunities for more.  Dance through the day and forget trying to achieve.  See if your day does not provide delightful surprises of what you now consider success.  It is achieved through the door of appreciating and through happy dancing!