What are your feelings telling you?

EmotionsI’m talking about cautionary feelings today!

I have always considered myself intuitive. Certain feelings made me think I was receiving cautionary messages from someone who had a bigger vision than I.  I would not go into a store when this negative feeling came to me.  Or I would choose another campsite when this uneasy feeling came over me.  I sometimes would get a hunch about someone.

I understood negative feelings to be messages directing me to avoid certain danger.  I imagined that I was being protected.  I became apt at recognizing these emotions and responding accordingly.

I was vigilant.  I watched for negative emotions. I recoiled and ceased to participate until I could feel better. I was proud that I could recognize these messages and save myself from an unknown fear!

I now realize that these interpretations are not only rescuing me from unhappy situations, they are putting me in a cloister safety zone.  I can continue using negative emotions as my personal safety net, but my life  becomes narrower and narrower.

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Participation is one of my biggest desires.  Yet my desires were conflicted by refraining to participate.  I needed to take a second look at my attitude.

True or False:  Negative emotions send messages of fear-and-flight?

Yes and no.  The question is, has this understanding of intuition served me?  I can only decide this from looking at my life experiences.

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Fleeing more and more opportunities because I feel the “fear emotion” has trended toward isolation and a non-social lifestyle.  It has permitted me to write, paint, play music, meditate and enjoy nature. but is this the only lifestyle I want?  Don’t I love being and sharing with people?

The flee or non-participation approach seemed to work fine for me at one point in my life. Now it doesn’t.

If I felt a negative emotion when I was invited to a party, I would politely give reasons why I could not go.  I read articles that confirmed it was a better idea to Just say no! than to force yourself to do something you didn’t want to do.  It was confusing.  If I was invited to go on an outing and received a negative emotion, I would not go.  If I got an idea to call a friend and a negative emotion came up, I would put off the phone call.  I actually believed this would help me.  I thought to myself, My timing may be off and it is not a good time to call.  I was pretty proud of this intuitive gift of safety.

This approach led down a path where I convinced myself I was predestined to have a more quiet life.  This is something I would need to accept. As time went on, friends gave up on me, thinking that I wasn’t interested in them or what they did.  I had little idea that this approach was leading to the opposite lifestyle that I desired.

And here is wherein the premise is faulty for me.  There is more lovely and luscious life to experience! I am tending more toward the belief it is possible to be safe, enter into unknown situations, and interpret your uneasy emotions as Please take a second look!  It could hold the kind of adventure you are looking for.  I now am moving ahead into new spheres of my life.  How this will happen?   Life experiences are my only way of knowing.

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Life experience tells me that I can participate by changing my point of talking about a situation or thinking about a situation.  Life experience tells me that there is always time to stop and listen to the thoughts that feel bad.  When I hear the thoughts, I have the opportunity to see through different eyes.  In changing my thoughts to a more comfortable, positive attitude about my situation, I change my situation… every time!

So, the way I was thinking of a friend who I wanted to call but didn’t, was triggering an uneasy feeling. I realized I was thinking I might be bothering my friend so I didn’t call.  I consciously changed my thoughts to I always am a loving person and my friends feel good when I call .  Now it is easier to call.  Now I have something to give.

I know that my attitude can change my ability to see what is in front of me.  Attitudes are like great, magical glasses.  They can change the look of anything! …and instantly!   My cautionary feelings are alerts to look at things in a new light.  You never know what you will see differently.  You never know what can develop within one day when you take second and third looks!

I hope these words are helpful to you and look forward to hearing about your attitude perspectives.  Today is a good day to have a good day!

 

Positive Attitudes Soar Over Fear

You probably havel been surprised by some compelling situation that calls out your fearful side.  Perhaps it was an over-due bill in the mail or a very real concern that you could lose your job.  There are so many situation where fear can usurp all of your attention.  The situation appears to be bigger than you are.  This appears to be the situation that you always feared would come.  It takes command of your very self.  You are taken by the attraction of fear  and it seems impossible to do anything but be a victim.

Then you may hear a faint, soft, breeze-of-a-voice, whisper that there is nothing to fear.  You can’t yet take your focus off fear, though.  You know better.  This time things are really going to be bad.  You knew it would come and here it comes!

The voice  may be quiet but it holds its own strength and does not rely on you.  It  continues to urge you not to believe in the situation.  This time you listen to this soft voice from within.  You tacitly, at first, choose to create in your mind a happier scenario as to what is going to happen.  You calm yourself and know that happiness is the only thing you wish to cling to.  This fear contains no happiness.  You cannot cling to this fear.  You must let it go, even though it seems to envelop your entire being.

Maybe it was just a spark of a moment, but a moment it was and you  turn your attention to something a bit brighter.  You listen to some music.  You wash the dishes in your kitchen or vacuum your floor. You like how you feel and you have heard that you can choose happy over fear. Fear tries to remind you of the situation and begs to get your attention.

This time, you will not believe in the fear. You tell yourself that fear is dark and happiness is light — bright light.  You begin to sing a song you learned as a child, This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!  This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine!  This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine, let it shine, all the time, let it shine.    You begin to feel better and you know you are back in the happy zone.

And then comes the most amazing thing.  Your whole situation vanishes.  What you thought was going to happen, is transferred into an entirely different scenario.  Instead of the bill being overdue, it has a credit on the collection line.    Instead of you being fired, you are called in to participate in a new project and even get a raise.  These things happen in the happy zone.  And it’s available for everyone.  Your decision to choose to focus on what you wanted and not on what you did not want changed everything right before your eyes.

Today, meet each challenge with a little confidence.  Know you are a wonderful  super someone who is still uncovering what is, very joyful and wishing to stay that way.  Know you choose to live a life of love.  Love is always the answer.  Take it with you throughout this day.

 

Don’t need to go too far to locate my best self.

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These are the thoughts that came to me after painting this picture yesterday.

When I spend any time with nature, (even imaginary nature), I begin to see the current of life hidden within everything.  I begin to feel about my life in a different way — everything I focus upon appears special and I am an integral partner. Through this attentive attitude I am at peace.  I am satisfied.  I experience all that is good and happy.  In the quiet of nature, I feel connected to every fabric of my being, every molecule, every thought, every tiny speck; in other words, in all of me.

I love coming back to these quiet times.

Storm Tonight?

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It appears that we continually ask ourselves whether we should prepare for the next storm, the next storm, the next storm.  This painting suggests that it might serve us better to look for the beauty in movement.  Focus on the colors, the joys, the hope of life and we just may draw that sort of experience to ourselves.  In other words, let go of your concerns that continually imagine bad things coming in the future, and enjoy what is right in front of you.  It is possible to live in a bubble of well-being.

 

This photo is available at Art.com in a 36″ x 48″ poster, framed or unframed.

The Happy Dance: Thoughts About Achieving Happiness

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I like to be happy.  I like the feeling of well-being.  I love to wake up in the morning with thoughts of quiet enthusiasm.  I love to be happy.

But setting out to achieve happiness creates the opposite effect!  Really.  It is impossible to experience happiness by pursuing happiness.  it can’t be done.  The more happiness is pursued, the more it is elusive.  Happiness cannot be objectified.

Think of happiness as your heartbeat.  You probably have nothing to do with the beating of your heart right now, yet you are experiencing the fine effects of its presence.  Think of happiness as your lungs, breathing air in and out.  You probably have not even thought about the fact that as you read these words, you have been breathing in and out and sending what we call oxygen to all parts of your body.  You may try to keep outside influences away from preventing a good heartbeat and air supply, but, when you think about it, you are the heart and the lungs.  You do not need to pursue the heartbeat or the breathing.  You came this way.

Happiness is similar.  You came to earth with happy.  Whenever you are not bothered by worry, concern, duty, internal argument, and pessimistic acceptance of doom, you naturally rise back to the vibrations of happy.  Happy is your natural, hard-wired state.

Just like removing smoke from your lungs, or muscle stress from your heart, deciding that you do not choose to hold concerns, duties, arguments, frustrations, fears will allow your natural ability to experience well-being, happiness is continually possible — automatically.

There are levels of happiness.  Happiness is eternal.  It develops to unimaginable delights the more it is experienced.  Happiness dances vibrations that can only be experienced to be appreciated.  You cannot talk or really write about happiness to achieve happiness.  You can only stop thinking about old ways of approaching life that get in the way of happiness.  When you stop and clear out old ways of thinking, you permit happiness to penetrate you and your life, and the lives of those around you.  

Stop thinking about happiness.  Start eliminating worry about whether you have enough money, or enough friends, or enough anything.  Eliminating duty and enjoy everything you have.  Stop trying to get more and enjoy what you have.  Stop trying to get well and enjoy the health you have.  Stop trying to find the love of your life and enjoy yourself and those around you.  Stop trying to be the best Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Teacher, Boss, Worker, Driver, Dancer, Actor, Trainer, …. stop it…..Enjoy who you are!  That is where happiness lives.

Stop worrying about your city, your schools, your government, your leaders.  I know it sounds like that is very poor advice.  But stop giving attention to all the things that are wrong with your world and give attention to what is RIGHT with your world.  That is the only way you can let the good things in.  

It is you who is stopping your own happiness.  You cannot keep blaming others.  You cannot keep wishing for better times, while feeling like you are continually stopped by some outside force.  Nothing can stop the one who is within you.  You are your center of happiness.  You are your power for good.  There is no other.

So stop thinking about achieving anything and live.  Trust yourself.  Make way for yourself, your truest self, your happy self.  Make way by eliminating every worry, every concern, every frustration.  Refuse to give your attention to negative thinking.  The most powerful tool you have in achieving anything you desire:  happy family, happy job, happy finances, happy surrounding, is to be appreciative of what is right in front of you.  This simple tool will open opportunities for more.  Dance through the day and forget trying to achieve.  See if your day does not provide delightful surprises of what you now consider success.  It is achieved through the door of appreciating and through happy dancing!