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Beautiful Days Begin From Within
There is only one job I have today. Find thoughts that are peaceful, joyful and allow happiness. Let go of thoughts that are worrisome, depressing and vibrate poor feelings.
Feelings of unhappiness and unrest suggest an imbalance. Think about why you want what you want. Can good feelings exist with your current thoughts?
Good feelings come from a higher, lighter energy. And, trying to force good feelings while entertaining worrisome thoughts doesn’t really work. Ever tried forcing a flower to blossom? Check out your actions this morning. Were you at ease, feeling like you were floating down the river on a sunny afternoon? If not, you can change right now. You may need to rest from trying too hard.
- And it may not only be the 7-8 hours of sleep you wish you had that’s keeping you from the happy flow of life. Here are some restful activities you can enjoy during the day, that have been known to bring a happier balance back to your life. If you haven’t taken time for yourself lately, try one of these activities to offer balance to all that you ask of yourself during the day. — You know, work stress, family stress, maintenance stress, etc. You can choose activities that balance the time you spend to give your body and soul rest and reassurance until all is well. You may be amazed how easy your tasks can be achieved when you are at ease. So, if you are feeling a bit uneasy and imbalanced, try one or more of the following:
- Read a book. Many public libraries provide ebooks and audio books. If this is available to you, consider yourself fortunate. Books still hold treasures for you, spur your imagination, take you to worlds you would never have know, keep you from stagnation.
- Listen and enjoy music as a primary experience.
- Paint or draw pictures — not to sell, but to learn about yourself. Use painting or drawing as a way to meditate, to slow down those thoughts that are giving you unrest
- Take a walk by yourself with no particular destination in mind.
- Be quiet in a garden. Be receptive to the birds, butterflies, bugs, flowers, grass. If you catch yourself making lists of what needs to be done in the garden, you may want to stop and find something that can hold your restful enjoyment.
This may sound a little weird to you, but beautiful days are brought to you when you begin walking within what you wish you had. I am encouraging myself to walk a fraction ahead of how I want things to be for me now. When I am balanced in mind, body and soul, I am able to relax enough to enjoy the road to my dreams. I am confident, my dreams are unfolding in just the way I want them to unfold. I breathe with ease. I breathe with confidence. I breathe with love.
What would you be doing if you were experiencing a beautiful day? Begin doing these things now. You and I have the power from within.
Getting To Happy
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Commitment to Write: Day 10 February 2019
Often it is not the incident bringing suffering but our perception of the event.
a quote from GETTING TO HAPPY; LEARNING TO READ EMOTIONAL MESSAGES
A tree can fall on two different homes. The first neighbor runs out in terror. Her face twitches with distress. She thinks how will she ever recover! The other neighbor comes out of her home. She runs to comfort her neighbor. She exhibits strength as she focuses on the well-being of the other. She has little blocking her. Many years of diligence brought her to this point. Though the tree fell on both houses, each responded in a different way. Their reactions depended on what negative emotional debris was currently on their individual paths.
Negative debris blocks happiness. When we wish to return to the happiness we love, we find we are blocked by confusion. There are people who have evolved to consistently clear thinking. I am not always this person. I am part of ever changing energy. What appears clear one day can emerge doubtful the next. However, the one thing I have going for me is my commitment to syncing to a happy state.
It is not the things that happen to us. It is the way we think about the things that happen to us.
After ten days of committing to writing, I see the power of commitment. I am refining my attention to what I want. As I tune into repeated focus, I improve the frequency. It becomes easier, more facile.
Commitment to happiness can bring about great returns!
A happy lifestyle can be achieved and improved upon by consistently using maintenance tools. The most beneficial tool for me when I feel angry, lonely, anxious, stressed, is this: STOP! Become aware of my thoughts! Choose words or actions allowing better feelings.
Negative thoughts produce more unhappy, intense feelings the longer you entertain them.
When you mine negative thoughts, (looking for reasons, excuses, past experiences, etc,) you find yourself falling deeper and deeper in negativity. Minus one plus minus one equals minus two. Minus two and minus two equals minus four. The more you hang out with negative thinking, the deeper and louder the negative feelings present themselves.
This is because uncomfortable feelings alert you! What you are thinking is taking you far away from your invisible self of well-being. The more you continue down the road of negativity, the louder your feelings of unhappiness emerge to tell you to STOP, turn around, change your way of thinking, your way of talking. Now!
When you change your way of thinking and talking, when you change the direction by changing activities, you will feel better. Good-feeling emotions say, Congratulations, you are heading in the direction you most want to go!
A positive one plus a positive one equals a positive two. A positive two and a positive two equals a positive four. The more you hang out with positive thinking, the deeper your happiness will become! You can’t miss with positive thinking. The trick here is to practice.
- STOP as soon as you are aware of feeling uncomfortable
- irritated
- stressed
- lonely
- embarrassed
- inadequate
- fearful
- Be thankful for the realization. Describe what is currently happening.
- Find a better-feeling way to describe it.
- For instance: I feel so irritated stuck in the house with so much snow outside! The emotion of irritation alerts you! You are off the happiness course. Turn around! So you say, I’m a little off. Ordinarily I love the snow. Wouldn’t it be nice if I could complete my quilting project while it is snowing.
- Do you feel better? If so, turn on some music and start quilting! You’ve learn emotional navigation!
The longer you can remain with positive thinking, the longer you can live a positive life. It’s really as simple as that. It takes commitment, attention and self-compassion. This tool has worked for me for a number of years and can be helpful for you.
A copy of Getting to Happy is waiting for you!
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Enjoy Holidays with these techniques
You look at the calendar. All the wonderful projects you were going to accomplish this year are not even begun!
Every year around this time you may feel a little anxious, a little overwhelmed. How do you handle the stresses of the holidays? Keeping a balance between activities and quiet times is always helpful but especially beneficial now. There is a simple technique to remedy your off times. It is quick. It is easy. You just have to remember to pay attention to your feelings.
Yes. Listen to any emotions with negative impact upon you. You can study the technique further. For the purposes of today, here are techniques I have found successful for a quick recovery from irritation, gloom and doom.
- Start your day with 5 minutes of quiet. No thoughts. No worries. No interpretations. Breathe in and out. Listen to your breath. Travel to the peaceful spot within you. This is where your strength for the day will be. Feel the peace. Feel the confidence. Feel the comfort. This is the core of happiness.
- End your 5 minutes of quiet with 5 positive adjectives about you.
You may find negative adjectives readily pop up. Pay no attention. Look for some fun, positive adjectives. Words have power. Use them to your advantage. Do these words lift you up? If so, use them throughout the day and see how things look brighter. You may even have a new found confidence. Now that’s the way to enter the holiday spirit! - Listen to your feelings. Negative feelings are messengers. They tell you the way you are acting is getting you further and further away from your place of well-being.
- STOP IN YOUR TRACKS IF FEELINGS ARE NEGATIVE. Don’t argue. Don’t open a dialogue about the feeling. Don’t explain the reason for the feeling. Just STOP! Remember the morning of quiet and how good you felt.
- Try re-wording your situation.
- Can’t do that? Try finding something else to do that feels better than the negative situation.
- Keep searching until you feel better. A better feelings means you are heading in the direction of well-being, love, joy and happiness. Stay on that track.
There are examples in the book, GETTING TO HAPPY: Learn to Read Emotional Messages. As you think of irritating events or feelings that you encounter during this holiday time, please leave a comment and I will be glad to do my best to address your particular challenge.
I cannot change situations I experience each day, but I can change the way I think about it and how I respond to it. For me, it makes all the difference.
Happy Holidays!
Camano Island Artists Abu and Nana 