We can do this!

Never Give Up. We can do this

There is no doubt, our entire world is experiencing an historic event. We are sheltered into isolation and we hear mixed messages until we become shaken.

Manny’s Favorite Subjects for Painting

Don’t give up. When you feel anxious, take a nap. Listen to music. Paint a picture. Call a friend. Refresh yourself. Remember you have rebounded before and this new experience will be no different. We will get through this! Listen to the news that serves you and leave news that does not serve you behind.

Stay busy. Do chores you particularly enjoy. Make cookies. Perhaps washing the dishes instead of using the dishwasher will become your favorite gift to yourself.

Be kind to yourself and to others. Let fear fall away. Replace fear with love. All you need is love. Be strong beautiful people! We will get through this together.

Remember, never give up. You, no we, can do this. We are not alone.

Peace

Music and Art keeps me sane!

I’ve heard it said, Gratitude is the healthiest of emotions. So I propose music, writing, dancing, painting, drawing, singing, liberal arts, are the healthiest of activities. And, don’t you know this is the time to stay healthy. 🙂

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Commitment to Write: Day 23 February 2019

Quotes from Barbara Dean Aliaga

LEADERSHIP – Barbara Dean Aliaga

Wouldn’t it be lovely to be happy all the time? This is something we all want. And, we can be happy whenever we want to remember this: we have committed to a happier lifestyle. Loosen up with a smile! Smile as often as you can remember to.

GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages, Barbara Dean Aliaga
Job Satisfaction – Barbara Dean Aliaga

Be Real. Dare to share yourself, not an imitation of yourself, or someone you think everyone wants to see. Be yourself. It will make a difference to your customers, your co-workers and yourself!. Bravely be you!

Twenty-five Year Work Anniversary, Barbara Dean Aliaga
Understanding – Barbara Dean Aliaga

Happiness cannot coexist with negative concerns.  With negative attitudes we block happiness. With negative thoughts we tend to participate in unhappy situations creating road blocks to well-being. We react by feeling sorry for ourselves!

GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages, Barbara Dean Aliaga
Imitation –Barbara Dean Aliaga

By the way, happiness does not run away from us; we move away from it! Happiness lives within us at all times. Happiness is the fabric of who we are. It can’t go anywhere, but we can close off the source.

GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages, Barbara Dean Aliaga
Acceptance — Barbara Dean Aliaga

I can find myself a long way from happiness. This can occur when I am comparing myself to family, friends and coworkers. It is possible to reign these thoughts in. When I do, I can immediately enter the world of satisfaction and peace. Let go of fears and concerns, and enter the world of quiet, cooperation and love.

GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages, Barbara Dean Aliaga

 

What Feels Good – Barbara Dean Aliaga

 My world situation will always be what I allow my heart to inspire. 

GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages, Barbara Dean Aliaga
Emotions – Barbara Dean Aliaga

Accepting life as it reflects our words of thought is how we can live in the present moment. The present moment is our opportunity for happiness. 

GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages, Barbara Dean Aliaga

 

Words can be inclusive or exclusive to your family, coworkers, friends and neighbors. Words can stop your ability to communicate. Practice words supporting your goals!

GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages, Barbara Dean Aliaga

A personal word

Hello everyone. Thank you. Thank you! As I search for quotes today, I realize I love to write about happiness and well being. the writing keeps me on the course. You are my inspiration for writing..

I am in day 23 of this writing commitment. It isn’t that I did not write daily before now. Sharing creates this new, wonderful habit. After almost a year in retirement, I realize what I miss most is the sharing of ideas with a gifted working team.  I enjoyed bringing words of inspiration to those on the front line of service.  It was the best part of my job!  Now I use the  internet as a powerful tool for the purpose of personal growth. Thank you for being part of this transition!

Practice improves everything.

“None of us is as smart as all of us.”


― Kenneth H. Blanchard

Commitment to Write: Day 13 February 2019

Atmosphere of LOVE in the air, where to start!

Prepare for Valentines Day by random acts of love to self today!
 

All you need is love!  Today is Madly In Love with ME Day! Start with making a list of ways you will show love to yourself. This is probably the hardest list you will ever make. So at least find two loving things you will definitely do for yourself today.

BE KIND to yourself! All day today! When you hear self-defeating thoughts running around your head, eating into the fun of today, re-word the thought.

  • It goes something like this:
    • You should eat something more healthy. This thought does nothing for your happy day. Let’s try to re-word.
    • It might be fun to cut up an apple and eat it. I could even sprinkle a little cinnamon on top. Do you hear a little attitude of fun? Are you more lighthearted? Just changing the words can move your attitude from duty to adventure!
  • Another example:
    • The house looks a mess.  I’m such a loser. This thought crushes your self-image. Let’s hurriedly change the wording.
    • It looks like I’ve been busy with projects and also enjoying myself.  Good work, Barbara!  Might be a fun time to spruce it up a little.  I like when it’s tidy! Your words have power to lift you up or smash you down. You just need to be aware of those pesky self-defeating thoughts.

Have FUN.  Once you discover feelings that are comfortable, uplifting, ride them like you are surfing a giant wave. Become an expert. Enjoy the comfortable feelings! Enjoy! Live in this positive world as long as you can. When you notice uncomfortable thoughts like negative self-perception, doubt, regret, even resentment come along, gently let them go. These thoughts can only shut off the fun times, so release them like you would a toy sail boat on a lake. Let the wind take them. You are busy having fun!

Stay HAPPY. Once you entertain kindness and fun times, staying happy is a certainty. Live these three rules within yourself and you have it made. The more you practice, the easier you expand your vision, appreciation and enjoyment.

On this day before giving love, spend time showering yourself with your heartfelt approval. Gently offer the imaginary scent of flowers to all the cells in your body from head to toe. Smile and let that smile radiate down through your arms and legs. Don’t be afraid to tell yourself, I love you!  When you can love yourself today, you will truly give the gift of love to others tomorrow.

I pass this piece of wisdom on to you today. Be best friends with yourself. Stop creating a nagging mother and an unhappy child from within. When you see a flaw, love the flaw. Soon you will realize this is not a flaw at all. This is who you are today. Discover it and love it! …. The only person who can see you the way you see you, is yourself!!! It follows then, the only person who can please you, and compliment you, and make you feel important, is yourself.  

Give up trying to fit in and LIVE your life with joy. You and I are marvelous creations. Enjoy today with your best friend who will always be with you … you!

An Audio Book is Waiting for you! GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages

Whatever makes you happy, do for yourself today! Look for the surprises that you have arranged for yourself and take time to appreciate! Best to you! Barbara

Commitment to Write: Day 11 February 2019

Ways to Change Defective Thinking!

INTRODUCTION: Our thoughts change from event to event. You probably are not even aware of what is taking place. Whatever you choose to think about changes your perspective. You look at your phone, hear a song streaming in the distance, answer a question from your mate, hear the dryer beep in the distance, all in a matter of moments. Depending how many thoughts are unknowingly passing through, you may sense a range and intensity of emotions. When emotions are on the less-desirable side, it you have the power to change the direction of your thoughts.

Little do you realize the thoughts you entertain become the limiting force for your vision.  You are fine tuning conditions to reflect the kind of struggles in which you focus.  These are thoughts about outcomes you don’t want.  Even though you may use the word wish in your internal dialogue, you are thinking about all the dangers the future can hold, like too much stress and too little financial security.   I know this is hard to believe, but once you see it you will know it is true.  You create your reality.  No one else. 

A book I’m working on, a Personal Growth Non-Fiction Book: YOU THINK IT! YOU GET IT!

One way to describe defective thinking is found in my latest self-help book:

Consider this. We flip a light switch on and we expect a room to flood with light. When we do not receive the expected effect, we look for what is blocking the light. We may change a light bulb or replace a defective switch. We may ask an electrical device to turn on the lights with our voices. When a light system is defective, we replace the defective part. The electrical energy is no longer blocked, and the light is again flooding our room.

Think of happiness as light flooding our life. Our attitudes can be like defective switches. We can block the energy of happiness creating the light of ease, of things working out. When things are not working out for us, replace the thought with a working thought. We can be clever and replace our defective thoughts with thoughts to support our desires.  

I don’t always see my thoughts as defective. I begin a complaint and think of it as sharing my life. Negative thinking is the normal way of living. … When we have defective lives, (lack of health, lack of money, lack of friends and family, etc.), the negative situations create feelings of helplessness, guilt, fear and regret, and, oh yes, a lack of what we think makes us happy. What if we were to interpret the feelings of defective lives as stop signals telling us to change the way we are thinking. Just as changing a lightbulb, we could change our negative attitudes toward living. What if we changed the defective thought and connected with the ever-present happiness?

Look for the similarity between the light switch and your attitudes. Keep the flow of happy juices flowing and you will be working just fine!

A quote from GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages

Create thoughts that will serve you.

  • Become aware of your feelings. It is so important to know how you feel, our culture incorporates a reminder to check whenever we greet one another. How are you?  How are you doing? has become an unconscious greeting. Whether we feel well or sick, we try to smile and say,  Good, or Fine, or Doing good so far. I will bet there are very few of us who consciously scan their range of emotions each time they are greeted. This is a great way to become aware of your feelings. You don’t necessarily need to share your feelings with anyone but yourself. So, How are you today? Each time you feel poorly, congratulate yourself for noticing and find something feeling good to you. Perhaps chat with the person in front of you a few moments! Remember to STOP and heed the uncomfortable emotion.
  • When you ignore, flee, or fight against your emotions, what happens? The uncomfortable feeling persists. Emotions can be thought of as navigational systems. The dashboard of your car will remind you, Your battery needs changing or You need gas or Make a U-turn at the next intersection. Feelings tell you You are tired and need rest or You need to eat something healthy or You are not looking at things in a way that will serve you! The feeling is not going to go away until you heed its warning. With no judgement, no decision, emotions send warnings of recommendations so you can achieve your personal goals. As you recognize emotions are your friends, your loyal servants, you become more familiar with their messages and you widen your options for heading to your personal destination. Amazing discovery!

Explore how you think about your life and find better-feeling statements. 

Think of your attitudes as a dimmer light switch. The new statement may allow you to feel happier. A little light comes in. Create an even better statement and you may feel even better and more light comes in. It is a process of changing the feelings you don’t want, for feelings easier to take.


As you continue on this journey, you will see a change in the people and environment around you. You will have more energy. You may even notice people are changing — like, they are so nice now! But your perception has changed. This is a really, really good thing

A quote from GETTING TO HAPPY: Learning to Read Emotional Messages

There are infinite paths to take at any moment. Your thoughts are the scope of your personal reality. What do you see? What is your experience? How do you feel? The answers to these questions show us where our thoughts take us at any moment. After sharing my thoughts with you, I am deeply satisfied. I look out the window and see the trees covered with snow. Ice and layers of snow outline the exquisite branches of our Thunder Plum trees. I am enjoying piano music in the background. The house plants are blooming inside. It is cozy. I am confident my thoughts are leading me to my personal life goals. Beautiful, beautiful, peaceful invisible spirit within and visibly demonstrated in my physical self at this moment. Thank you for asking, I am fine!