We are at war. Everyday. We are not even aware. We wake up and try to smile at the day ahead. Almost immediately our dutiful brains remind us of challenges, old debates and grudges we continue to hold. Tapes begin to play in our heads. We are not even aware of them. We dress to disguise any trace of unrest, and get on with the day. This worry, no matter how short-lived within our days, takes it toll on our bodies: our muscles, bones and organs; our blood pressure, blood sugar and ability to fight off infection. Often we engage in worrisome thoughts, emerging from one worry to another. We think this is life. We think we are destined to be concerned. This is the adult thing to do. But worry is a state that keeps us from our true happy selves. Worry is a state that damages our body. Worry is the war we need to win. Here are five ways to replace worry with confidence, smiles and general, overall happiness. Look in the mirror every hour. You can use a mirror or your iPhone/iPad/computer camera. Look carefully. Each time you use the restroom, look, really look at your facial expression as you pass the mirror. It may surprise you! Where’s your smile? Where’s your ease? Where’s the person you think you are? The answer is, probably lost in some concern or worry. Easy enough fix! As soon as you recognize the worry, let it go and turn it into
Be your best, happy friend. That may sound a bit funny to you, but it holds some great advice. We all know that deep, quiet satisfaction is the very stuff we are made of. Peaceful happiness is available to us at all times. There is never a moment that it is not available. Everything you need is in the quiet of you. One of the tools for locating the happiness within is to listen to the sound of each breath, become aware of your heartbeat. What a loyal friend is your heart! Consider your age. How many years has your heart been beating? It is estimated that over an average of a 66-year-lifespan the heart beats 2.5 billion times. The heart beats and your lungs exchange carbon dioxide for oxygen to nourish your blood supply whether or not you think about it. These systems are available to you free-of-charge throughout your lifetime. So is peace, joy and happiness. Happiness is always available to you, free-of-charge. There is no external thing, like a new house, a new job, new clothes, a new friend or loved-one, that can bring you happiness because you already own an unlimited supply of happiness. It is the fabric of who you are. You are the energy of happiness! You can restrict your flow of happiness with negative thoughts just like you can cover your airways to prevent oxygen to enter your body. If you cannot experience happiness simple remove the clamps of negative thinking. Pay attention
Here is a good example of how negative thought can develop within any one of us. Egos can take over at a moment’s notice and if left unguarded can seriously impede the pursuit of happiness. Last evening a magazine salesman came to the door. A silent alarm was triggered within me: someone is ringing the door after dark. I was filled with immediate suspicion. Everything I write about took backseat to fear. I heard my husband laughing and speaking to the gentleman at the door and I found myself going upstairs to get to a phone in case this salesman was not legitimate. I felt compelled to save the day! After the salesman left, I felt ashamed of myself for not helping out my fellow man and I didn’t feel good. Even more, I felt I should remain loyal to this shame because of my reactions. I felt it would be dishonest to now turn all positive and happily get on with the moment. My husband mentioned once or twice to let it go but I felt this strong urge to assess my reactions to a simple ring at the door. …and I began to notice that I was defending my reactions to my husband who was now focused on a basketball game. I didn’t realize it in the moment. Now I do. I was choosing thoughts that were making me feel bad. This is one grand opportunity. I am able to observe from a distance share about thoughts that can
No Matter What You Just Did You can Turn Everything Around! It’s is true that you never have to stay in an unhappy state. No matter what just transpired. No matter how sad you are about the loss of a loved one. No matter how angry you are about an auto accident. No matter what mistake you just made. No matter what, you can change things right now! Choose anything to be grateful for. Anything at all. Your dog. Your cat. Your home. Your breakfast. Your coffee. Anything. Think about how grateful you are for your eyelids! Rubbish, you say?!! Then think about how grateful you are for the little garden you have outside and think about how good it will feel to put your hands into the dirt and play like a kid. Don’t stop until you regain your joy. And, whatever you do, don’t go back to the thoughts that put you in the unhappy state. Your thoughts can create more like-situations. When you think about what you are not grateful for, you are welcoming all those events into your life once again. Let go of those thoughts right now by replacing them with much lighter, happier and pleasing thoughts. You see, happiness is really all up to you!