Why do I continually talk about positive thinking? Why do I continually check on my own negative thinking, say, “Thank you, but no thank you!” to the thoughts that bring me feelings of doubt, pain and worry? Why is it so hard to stay positive? Perhaps the answer is this.
In order to believe, I must go beyond what I already know. Possibilities are infinite and beyond! To believe I need to tell myself a little white lie. I need to pretend beyond where I am now. I need to believe in the silver lining before I really see it. Every choice to let go of worry or criticism of others or every disappointment or fear will bring about a happier me. When I let go, I make way for happiness. To let go may require telling myself a little white lie. When I intend to get to the positive side of life, that lie will not bite me.
It’s a little hard to find examples but here goes:
- I wake up and remember it is Monday and time to go to work. I have feelings of angst. I lie to myself and tell myself that I am getting a big happy surprise at work. I tell myself a little white lie and picture my boss giving me a great compliment. I decide to tell myself another white lie. I tell myself that I will experience new insight into my job. I am happy now and ready to go to work with happy anticipation. The result: I will hear and accept the compliment my boss gives me ,and I will be open to the insights that will make my job easier to accomplish. This, my friends, is beLIEving!
- I start to make dinner and the recipe I am following turns completely wrong. I don’t know what I did to make this so much of a mess. I feel angry and frustrated. I decide to tell myself a little white lie. I tell myself that I am so lucky to be right in the midst of a new discovery. I am about the create a meal that is tasty, nutritious and will be a family favorite for years to come, along with this great story of how it was created. Now that I have paused and all the negative thoughts have mysteriously vanished, I have thoughts that will save the recipe and the more I have fun the more I see possibilities. The meal is a hit with the family who appreciate the calm and happy cook in the kitchen. We love being together at this meal. The food does not seem particularly good or bad but the happy and warm feelings around the table cannot be surpassed! This is beLIEving!
- You’ve misplaced your checkbook and you are sure that it has been lost and taken by some similar thief you’ve heard about on the news. It’s time for a little white lie. You picture the checkbook in the house. You remember the game “hide-the-thing” and you decide to have a go at it. You relax for a few moments as if it is already found. You picture the checkbook in the same place you always keep it. Your little white lie tells you that it has already been recovered. Now you feel better and thoughts come to you as to what to do next. You begin to play “hide-the-thing” and the “thing” is your checkbook. As you beLIEve you get closer to its whereabout. You will locate it and all will be fine because you beLIEve.
It is not easy to stay positive, to believe. It is less easy to remain in the negative world of fear, sorrow, anger, irritation, frustration and pain. When you’ve had enough just let yourself believe in happiness.