Yes. Acceptance seems to be the doorway to any number of possibilities. An intentional pause can effect our point of view. Often we are unaware of what we are seeing. With a new mindful perspective comes change! The winds blow in a new direction and our landscape changes. We have an array of choices!
Our words can create a holding pattern, reminiscent of the Groundhog Day Movie with Bill Murray. (Happy Groundhog Day BTW! Hope you can have fun today!)
When we talk, we usually are not even aware of the effect we produce. An example:
Q: I have recently lost my job, and I am panicked I won’t find another job. I can’t imagine this book can help me?a quote from “Getting to Happy: Learning to Read Emotional Messages”
A: Well, it can. You may not realize it, but look at your words, “lost” and “panicked”. These words are holding you hostage to a situation you really don’t want. Is there a gentler way to talk about your situation? … Put new words to your situation. Change your way of thinking about this situation, especially in conversation with others. This will open new opportunities for improving your situation.
For those of you who like word games, it can be fun to change negative, fearful words with words holding encouragement, confidence. You need to be mindful of the negative words before you can play! Try this game at dinner time: Player 1: I can’t; Player 2: I usually enjoy trying. I bet I can! Player 1: I cooked a terrible dinner! Player 2: I enjoyed being with you tonight. So fun when certain things turn out!
The idea is to get to a lighter side of life and turn away from words causing doom and gloom!
This week I kept a dental appointment. The dental hygienist said, I’m sorry for making your gums so unhappy! They seem very irritated. I instinctively replied, Oh, they’re just super excited to see you! They’re happy as can be! She thought this was hilarious! We both laughed.
Why should it ruin my day over the fact I need to pay more attention to flossing? My gums are obviously reacting to this cleaning. They’ll have lots of time to relax after I leave. And I will floss every day to strengthen my gums! In my mind there is no reason to worry over a situation. I try to accept what has happened and go from there. If I decide to worry or someone else tries to provide me with more worrisome words, I like to turn away from those thoughts and face towards something funny, happy and creative. In other words, I am getting better at knowing what I like and what I don’t like. I can choose what I like if I stop and leave what I don’t like in its tracks!
Happy thoughts cause life-changing vibrational waves of enjoyment well beyond what I could ever feel with negative thoughts. I have taught myself to replace negative words with words holding positive meaning for me. Then any actions will collaborate with joy. My world situation will always be what I allow my heart to inspire.a quote from “Getting to Happy: Learning to Read Emotional Messages”
Life can be what we wish it to be! What about happy and carefree?! Acceptance is the doorway. And the way to get through is to mind your own business without guilt or regret.
Listen to Lilly Hamlin read, Why Another Happiness Book
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