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Courage To Be Yourself

There is nothing quite so satisfying as the calm, peaceful connection to happiness.

Yet many days we are caught up in the rough waters of sorrow, fear, defense, and concerns that can lead only to unhappiness. It occurred to me yesterday that a stumbling block to experiencing my happiness is trying to create a projection to others that I think might please them.

At the moment I realize I am who I am, flaws and all, I stop projecting the person I consider passable for other’s approval, and I am immediately returned to my happy state.

The question is this: Is it possible for me to get along with you by just being myself?  You bet it is!  In fact, I am worthless to you if I am not myself.  So, here I am in my natural, free state of happiness. There is nothing so satisfying as being myself.  So what if my house is a little untidy.  So what?!!  So what if my pants have a wrinkle.  So what if my hair doesn’t match the hollywood stars I see.  So what if I don’t fit into the latest fad group.  So what if I occasionally have a grammatical error in my blog.  So what!

The only way I will fit into this world is if I let myself be me with all the wonderful flaws and creative, free, child-like expressions of joy.

I pass this piece of wisdom on to you today.  Be best friends with yourself.  Stop creating a nagging mother and an unhappy child from within.  When you see a flaw, love the flaw and go on.  It is part of you this day and it is part of your life today.  If you really don’t like a wrinkle, iron your pants, but do it for yourself, not for who you think will be impressed. If you don’t like the way your hair looks, then go and get it cut.  But get it cut for yourself, not for the way you think others will like it.  If you cut it for others to notice, you’ll be disappointed in their reaction every time.  The only person who can please you and compliment you and make you feel important is yourself.  

Give up trying to fit in and LIVE your life with joy.  You and I are marvelous creations.  Enjoy today with your best friend who will always be with you … you!


Manny and I spend our days as close to creative projects as possible. We inflate our views with as much positivity as we dare muster. We come up out of the clouds of adulthood and find joy. Manny is a great cook. He shines at being a brilliant listener, and loves to test, encourage and applaud the perceived success of others. Barbara is joyful creativity. She wakes up with hope and sets about showering her world with buds of ideas and ways of thinking.

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