It is so easy to speak and write about choosing happy thoughts. Then a situation arises clashing with my current direction. A rude remark, an oversight or an interruption leading to a misunderstanding. My state of mind then depends on the level of self-confidence. Will I allow an unwanted situation to be brushed off or solved and forgotten?
Just how happy am I? The answer: as happy as I can heed my own words and return often to a consciousness of happiness. I understand that happiness is always available but so often I loose my confidence in locating it when my situation presents as an irritant. How do I develop this confidence to withstand these irritating situations?
It is impossible to cultivate the skill of self-confidence without putting it into action. Did I think it was an inherent trait? It may have been at one time. It may have been, before I allowed others: parents, siblings, friends, teachers, church reps, government reps, news reps, heroes and just about anyone who was not me, dictate the direction I should take at any given moment. When I put my voice second to others. And when others scolded me for listening to my inner guidance and not theirs.
My confidence seemed to rise temporarily when it was in agreement with the thoughts of the person I was with. I struggled in stating my unique perspective. I was seldom in contact with who I was and what my thoughts were. And when my statement came out in a group, it came in the form of an argument. It was often an offensive stance that was not readily accepted, probably because the tone was not understood. Over the years my skill diminished and refused to serve me in the tamest of gatherings.
But have no fear; it is not a gloomy picture at all. It is the gold lessons of experience. I like to practice and expand many skills. Confidence nudges me daily to move about with, well, confidence! And by utilizing this skill I am making many discoveries about this adventure called life, and communication There is still much to learn I will be staying around for a while longer!
Today’s objective is to practice confidence by responding to my thoughts. I am determined to be my best friend today. Self-confidence is a skill I can use to discover my best self, my best life. I am on to something major! Thank you for sharing in this day’s journey with me and I hope these words are helpful for you!